I'm 24 and my Boss is a 38 year old single guy. I have crush on him and it's so obvious that he likes me. However, he has not asked me out yet cause he might not be too sure about my feelings, age differences & also the work environment.
The problem is I usually don't have that much to talk about and get his attention when we all(staff) go out for dinner. I also can't look into his eyes that much since i'm very shy when I like a guy(sounds like he doesn't exist there)I know that's awful. I kinda want to act professionally and don't cross the line but since he seems like he's concern about me I love to get some help.
I want to know how to give signals to this guy or in general and how to make everything clear that if this case works out for me.
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2006-11-12 18:48:55 · 15 answers · asked by ELK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask for his number when there's no colleagues around or probably after work. Lie to him that you've run into some work difficulties lately and would like to share with him your troubles. Ask if he can have some dinner after work with you to further discuss more of your "work related issues". Then, you can have more personal time with him only. I'm sure he'll be delighted to see a girl taking initiative in asking a man out. He'll not reject you if you really think he likes you too. Try and see if things can work it out this way. As time goes by, try to talk about other things and keep asking him out when you know he might be free. Or you can also try to stay back late in the office when you know he'll be working late. You'd probably never know if something "hot" can happen in the office like office sex? haha...wear some seductive but not too sexy, if not your colleagues will gossip about you! You don't want them to think you're bitchy right! Ok, that's all!!
2006-11-12 19:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Most companies won't tolerate someone higher up dating one of their staff. Chances are, he knows that and does not want to risk losing his job. If you really like him, then just tell him how you feel-but only if you don't mind the thought of having to find a job somewhere else and start over, because if he does want a relationship with you, that's probably what you'll have to do. Plus there's always the chance that you tell him how you feel, and he turns you down- then either you're stuck there feeling uncomfortable, or you find a new job anyway because you don't want to have to see him everyday. But, love is the most important thing(in my opinion) and if you really think that you have a chance at being in a happy relationship with him, then you should just go for it. What's a life with all work and no love?! Just make sure that you really do have feelings for him, and you're not just feeling this way because he's your boss and you have a crush on him. And if that's what it is, then don't feel bad, because it happens all the time and you're usually over it before you know it.
2006-11-12 19:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by doodlebugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best NOT to date your boss unless you are prepared to change jobs. If things don't go right, how well do you think the two of you will get along? It would be in his best interest not to date you cuz others won't see him as being biased when he deals with you when they find out you two are together. Good luck but I would advise against it. There are too many other guys out there and not as many good jobs. Think long and hard before going forth with this idea!
2006-11-12 19:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by sixfoot8bkr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he likes 'shy', then you've already gotten his attention. Try asking him out on a date --hey, he might be shy himself, but if you're really that certain of things, then give it a shot. You'll know a lot more after the date.
2006-11-12 18:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Roasted Kiwi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF you want to keep your job I suggest you DON'T go after him. Your company may have a policy against it and if caught YOU will be the one to get fired not him. So you might want to start looking elsewhere besides the work place for someone.
2006-11-12 18:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't mix business with personal relationships.
2006-11-12 18:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you want something out of this crush, youre going to have to prepare for a bumpy road. dating within the company usually doesnt work out because it creates an environment that can be very negative. there's rumors, there's quid-pro-quo, harrassment, retaliation, etc.
is he worth it to find another job? youre better off masturbating thinking about him instead of actually having him in your bed.
2006-11-12 18:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DON"T!!! Don't mix work with "pleasure", it never works out!!! And will cause MUCH resentment among your co-workers, and possibly get him fired. Most companies have policies on "management" dating within the company.
2006-11-12 18:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by weeewah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't date him, the best way to attract him is to work your hardest, maybe it will lead to "raises, bonuses, etc." not trying to pick him up!
2006-11-12 19:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
touch whenever you get the chance. invite him to after hours stuff , like bars etc. or just push him up against a wall and do him, that might work. really if you're gonna go for it, in this sexual harrassment culture ,you do have to be the one to move. because he could get in trouble being the initiator. he could get crap anyways so just make it obvious
2006-11-12 19:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Myrrhder 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋