Why is he doing this?

Question

I've told my ex (we dated for a year and a half) many times that I thought we should stop sleeping with each other because it's not healthy, especially since I;m still in love with him. Then he gives me a guilt trip and tells me I;m leaving him because I want to. Because I don't want to be his friend.

Then he says hurtful things such as that he doesn't want to go on dates with me because he is going to go on dates with OTHER women. Then sometimes he might say "why do I still like you so much. I like you almost the same as if we'd just met yesterday."

He is very un predictable and sometimes he says he loves me and sometimes he says he doesn't. He;s jealous sometimes and sometimes he acts like he doesn't care.

It's a constant see-saw, so why does he continue to mess with me and sleep with me if he doesn't want to be with me? How can anyone do that to another person, especially if the person already expressed that they don't want to be used?

Not only that, he walks out when im trying to talk to him, has very little patience, and doesn't even let me go to his house.

I am going to stop contacting him. But why does he still talk to me? If he treats me that way what could be going through his head? if he despises me so much why even see me? A**hole..

Answer 1

He is doing this because he knows it hurts you, but that you are still sleeping with him. He says things like bringing up the girls to get back at you because he knows you can find someone else then you will be gone and happy. Ex's usually dont want to see there other mates happy and say hurtful things to down grade you. If i were you i would move on you dont know who he is messing with and you dont want to catch anything. Sleeping with your ex and him telling you he's seeing other girls is putting yourself down hun. Dont stoop down to his level. Go out and rub it in his face that you can find someone else you dont need him if he treats you like that

Answer 2

If you dont want to be used. STOP IT!!! You are giving him all the power by the way you are acting. How can he do it? Because you let him!!! Seeing alot of similarities between your situation and mine I know that it is not easy. But you are the only person that can change this situation. You have the power to stop it. Just do it. There is no benefit in letting him mess with your head. You may love him and you may still want to be friends but that will never happen if you continue with how you are going. You are rewarding his bad behaviour so he will keep doing it. Put a stop to it and ignore his guilt trip. If you truly love him the best thing you can do for him is turn your back on the situation and let it pass. It may hurt him but it will allow him to see the consequences of his actions which he will never see while you are there for him whenever he wants. Because you remind me of me, I would also suggest a self esteem course and also look up the concept of 'codependence'. May not apply to you but it may just help you to realise why you let him continue to do this to you. Hope that helps

Answer 3

He keeps coming around because you let him.I know you say you are still in love with him but you have got to stop this.There are so many other guys out there who will treat you better.It almost seems like he wants to keep you on a string just in case he is at loose ends and needs somebody to hang with.You do not deserve this.Be strong.Show him you don't need him.Go out into the world and find someone who deserves you.

Answer 4

Better QUESTION is WHY are you letting him do this to you? You sound like a very strong persons who just blinded by love if i were you I would just says that's it no more of this sh#t and move on to someone better. All he is doing is using you and you are letting him do it. What do your parents say or don't they know you are allowing this guy to use you like this stop letting this happen.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to tell you this but he is using you. He is using you because you let him. Only reason he is acting nice to you is becaue you sleep with him. If he really wants to be friends with you then he will not sleep with you. Don't give in to his blackmailing ("if you don't do this, I'll find someone who will"). You know what is right in your heart. Believe in yourself. Hold your head high and tell him you had enough.

Answer 6

omg he sounds EXACTLY like my ex........ tell him goodbye ASAP its whats best 4 u trust me.... i was with my ex for 2 years and would have done anything for him and he broke up with me 2 days after he took my virginity and then he kept talking to me after and said it was my fault and i was 2 immature thats why he broke up with me but he still "loved me" and at the time i believe d him because i still loved him but then i caught him with his "ex" now a year later i realized he didnt love me he loved the idea of me just like i didnt love him i loved who i wanted and thought he could be and he brain washed me into believeing it was all real and true but now i know it was a lie in my mind that i told myself and i now have a wonderful boyfriend who cares about me and what i think and feel......... sometimes you have to do things in life that hurt and dont make sense at the time but believe me later on they make sense and u will be glad STOP talking to him because hes ur security and u will fall right back BE STRONG and say no and love yourself in the end it will work out i promise

Answer 7

Why sure I could have got to i might I do you right here, do you there,do you anyplace. Should I could I do you within the corridor, inside the mall, inside the stall, sittin opposite cowgirl, lizzards lap, doggie form,@ss all for your face lick it good my buddy circular two is capable to start.. Someone have got to turn out to be a member people? Holla@urgirl ;O

Answer 8

he is an abusive little boy. why do you allow yourself to be treated like crap is what you should bsking yourself. why are you so afraid to move on with your life? fear of being alone? being alone is not the end of the world. as long as your an easy piece of azz, he will come back when he cant get none someplace else.

Answer 9

Why are you blaming him? He is continuing to sleep with you because you allow him to. He gets to have his cake and eat it too. The question I have is why are YOU sleeping with him? You know you love him and he wants to be with other women, cut him out of your life.You deserve more than that. Repect yourself...

Answer 10

he is using you for sex. if he cared about you he wouldn't be seeing other women and sleeping with you on the side. he is probably dating someone who will not sleep with him. i would cut him off and play hard to get. tell him you are going to start dating (unless he wants to commit to a relationship with you) and it is not fair to whomever you date for you to be sleeping with him. Keep your pantys up and stick to your guns. i can tell you are way to available.