My son was 12 and went to live with his father.I didnt want to let him go but i felt sorry for him because he never had his dad in his life and missed out on all the father/son stuff...I now know it was a big mistake but my son used to cry because he wanted to see his dad. For 2 years i said no. But later i was talking to his teacher about it and she said i should let him go or he would resent me later.....So to make a long story short his father rarely paid any of his child support. It didnt matter how many times my sons father stood him up or didnt send gifts he always acted like his Dad hung the moon. In the end his father was owing me like 10 grand in child support. When i finally decided to let him go about a year ago i had to sign custody over to his dad. We agreed that i wouldnt pay child support since he almost never (400 bucks in 11yrs.)paid. But now 1yr later he wants child support from me-thats fine i dont mind paying. But how can i get my past due c.s. he owes me or does he
2006-11-12 18:26:26 · 14 answers · asked by Kristi A 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Or does he still have to pay? How do i go about getting it? And how much is the child support for someone thats a stay at home mom?
2006-11-12 18:27:05 · update #1
Court papers say "no child support ordered"
2006-11-12 18:36:10 · update #2
Well when i had my son his father was court ordered to pay childsupport
2006-11-12 18:39:16 · update #3
If he had a court order to pay support he still owes it to you. It's going to be very hard for him to get support from him. You have to make A LOT more money than he does for that to happen. I would get an attorney.. and discuss it with him.. The support covers the expenses that were involved when you had custody. I would not give him child support...let him know how it feels. If you go to court, more than likely the judge if he wants you to pay (and that's doubtful) will offset your support with what he owes you..Which means if you are ordered to pay 1,000.00 per month, you would not owe for 10 months..However, talking to an attorney would be your best bet...HE STILL owes you back support and unless you are making more than him, chances are he won't get support. Good luck
2006-11-12 18:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You go to your local family court and contest it on those very sturdy grounds you just described. No. You shouldn't owe him a red cent. He will end up owing you, especially if he never bothered to try to share custody of your son before he was 12. The only way he could repay you without you paying anything would be for him to keep that child for the same amount of years that you did. Since, depending on whther or not the boy is in school past the age of 18, crunch the numbers. He will still owe you 6 years of child support. Do not let him corner you into any type of verbal agreement. Protect yourself, go online to Findlaw and read up on your options in your state. You don't owe him anything but a kick in the a s s for not stepping up to the plate and acting like a man and father to his son a long time ago. Don't trust him. Go about it legally.
2006-11-12 18:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Kristi, Did you go to court for your divorce?? If you did that all should of been court order by the judge.They figure out how must child support he will pay and spousal support on his yearly wages. All of this sure be court order. If you did it yourself you can get help from the welfare office. They go after dead beat dads' and yes he has to pay you back child's support.Go get the dead beat. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-11-12 18:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was there a court ordered relief amount? If so, then yes, he owes that money. You will have to go to a lawyer to have this brought before the bench for a judgment. If not, I suggest you speak to a lawyer, most will give you a consultation free or for little cost.
2006-11-12 18:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big problem even if you have the law on your side .I want you to know this ...I was brought up by my Mum for the first 13 years she worked to house and feed me we went out to all sorts of places which cost only train fare to get there .After 13 I had to live with my Dad he promised a lot delivered nothing made me work like a slave .So in summing up who do you think I loved best and why ? My Mum of course a poor lady who died young but showed me real love and caring and good times costing nothing "the best things in life are free".Sorry you had to struggle but In your boy's eyes you will be number one!!!!!!
2006-11-12 18:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
morally, he shouldn't have to pay you any money because he never owed you money. he owed his son money. so you asking for money now seems a little, money greedy. you should have made him pay every dime that he owed his son when you had custody.
this isn't about you, it's about your son. never forget that because he's the one that had to deal with his mother and father not being together. and money will never repair that damage. so he probably doesn't want the money anyway. he just wants to spend sometime with his father.
however i think that it is great that you are willing to pay child support. because it's for the good of your son. i'm glad that you realize that your responsibility to your son is not contingent on anyone else. (i.e. his father) there really needs to be more mother's like you in the world. good luck.
p.s. i'm reading all these entries and non of them mentions your sons interests at all. how bad is it going to be for him when, "mommy sues daddy" and now daddy has to pay you when the money is better where ever your son is. don't be spiteful (you didn't come off as spiteful i'm just reminding you) remember your son, please. please
2006-11-12 18:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by zerohour 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are lower income, you can contact legal aid. You will be able to contact an attorney through them free of charge who will enforce your sons father rearrage. Some men are such loosers! You wonder why our children have so many problems. The measly amount that they do have to pay, does not even come near covering rent, utilities, food field trips clothing,ect. Good luck with this, but don't give up!
2006-11-12 18:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by tt & aj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you get paid for the time you support him and you not working does not matter. He still owes if there was an order ,contact the cs office and give all the info you have on him and stay on it.
2006-11-12 18:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Blair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still owes you matter where your son lives. A good judge will not have you start paying child support if your ex still owes you.
Tell your ex you will start paying child support the minute he has paid you back every cent he owes you.
DO NOT PAY HIM UNTILL HE HAS PAID HE BACK CHILD SUPPORT!!
2006-11-12 18:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes he still owes it and must repay it. i have friends that the kids are grown and by court order must still pay it off.
2006-11-12 18:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋