I am 23 I am kind of introvert in nature. I love a girl. I can not impress girls by talking but I managed to talk to this girl alone. She is beautiful and she too talks to me in a very friendly manner. She works in library and I meet her every time she is in library. I used to see her atleast thrice a week or I will call her, but the problem is I don’t know how to talk to her, when ever I am with her I talk to her for only few minutes. She knows that I come to library just to see her. Unfortunately I couldn’t understand what she thinks about me. I think she knows that I like her but she never express any thing. I am going to graduate soon, then I will not be able to see her. She never calls me as I do, I call her twice a week just to say hi, but when ever I call her she talks to me very well. If she likes me as I like her she will call me frequently right? I am confused. can any one give me advice. It is hard to guess what women think. Should I say I love you or not?
2006-11-12 18:20:15 · 14 answers · asked by hilltopper9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am thinking to take her to restaurant or some thing. If I ask her directly may be she will say no, I will say like this is a treat for her since I am going to graduate soon. This idea is good right? Or I will end up not conveying what I intended to? Though I didn’t tell her my feelings directly, I am hinting as much as I can that I care for her. I know her for the past 6 months. Thank you every one for your time.
2006-11-13 03:05:09 · update #1
have you two ever gone out beyond the library? if not, you should ask her out before you say I love you. talk to her telling that you have feelings for her but don't say " I Love you" to her till she said that she likes you.
You two need to go out so you can show her that it is a relationship not a friend ship.
and if you two can go out and be boy friend girl friend then when the moments right and you truly feel love in your hart, tell her you are in love with her and enjoy every second you two are together.
maybe she doesn't feel the need to call you because you keep calling her. next time you are talking at the library say you have to go and that she should give you a call later that night.
2006-11-12 18:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you think you love this girl when it sounds like you two have had brief encounters. You need to ask her out and spend some quality time together getting to know each others likes/dislikes before you go saying you love someone. It seems you are taken by her appearance and perhaps some things she has said, but to be in love takes much more. She seems to be just buying time with you which could be boredom, waiting for you to make a move or like you she could be quiet. She could be playing hard to get. But do not say you love her, I think that would scare her away when do you really know this person and she you?
2006-11-13 02:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by sissytwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a ticket agency and get tickets to anything. Or better yet go to a fun museum and get tickets and invite her. Say you need her advice about some art and her opinion is the only one you trust. She works in a library so she likes the arts and research. The heck with I love you as words mean nothing. Build on something with class. Let her be the first to say "I Love you".. Women love a confident guy. If you text messeging on your phone do that as it is more convenient and if you ask her to text you back she will even if she has to borrow a cell phone I bet. Communication comes in many different flavors today. TRUST ME!
2006-11-13 02:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by laxthefacts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through something similar.. because i'm always making the calls.. and he doesn't take the initiative to do so. but anyways. You should know what you would do for someone if you feel a certain way so whatever you would do she would've done too if she feels the same way. but it's not really the right time to say you love her if you guys haven't talked about where it's going and how you feel.
2006-11-13 02:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Belizea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy I told me he loved me that I was not dating, I would be really, really freaked out. Like I would run. I am all about expressing yourself, but I think it would be better if you told this girl you have feelings for her rather than jumping the gun and telling her you love her.
whoa, i just had a deja vu... which I believe means that I am going on the right path and anyone who comes across this is on the right path too. Sorry, just had to say that.
Follow my advice.
2006-11-13 02:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
way too early to say i love you. Look, you just gotta get yourself to ask her on a date. If she says yes, you know. if you says no, you know. Its the only way you will find out. What if you graduate and never see her again but she really did like you but she was shy like you? You cant live like that. If she turns you down at least you know. Good luck
2006-11-13 02:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Robbyz3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very powerful word.
If she hasn't called you yet, I'm not sure if she likes you that much.
If I liked a guy, I would call him.
Have you been on a date with the girl?
If you like her ask her out on a date first before saying "I love you."
2006-11-13 02:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Toronto_bamboo_star 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that you should just tell her how you feel. maybe she feel sthe same way, but you wont know unless you take a chance. if not, then you know that she doesnt feel the same way and you can sort of get over wondering and maybe find someone else.
2006-11-13 02:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by sampolo193 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you shouldn't say I love you to her because this doesn't sound like a relationship it sounds like you are friends.
Just ask her, you will feel alot better and you will know the truth.
2006-11-13 02:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Polita♥ 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its better to tell her what you think abt her as u dont have enough time left. but try to be polite and gentle n in case she doesnt give a positive response dont try to force her rather show her that u respect her feelings. all the best
2006-11-13 02:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by vanshsa 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋