I have a gf who i know isn't the right one for me. we have stayed together, imo bc we have been scared to be alone. she is a mental hospital right now. i know it is over but don't know how to tell her yet. we cannot have a future. we are just too unhealthy for each other but i would like her in my life as my friend..
i just met this girl who i am completely in tune with. it is liking finding someone who thinks of the world the same way that i do. i want to date her. she says that she wants time to get to know me but is interested in seeing where it goes and that i make her feel incredible inside. we have only known each other 1 week but i have this instinct that she may be the one for me because our conversations are already really deep.
here's the prob- i graduate college in 5 weeks and am going home, 10 hours away from here. i want to spend my time with the new girl to see where it goes but feel obligated to spend it with my gf.
2006-11-12 18:03:03 · 4 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
end the relationship now while she is in a place that will help her learn to cope with it. you can not let her use her illness and your relationship as a crutch. im a nurse and a lot of mental illness personalitys tend to manipulate. she will make you stay with her. you are young and need to get on with your life.
2006-11-12 18:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by misse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to put your girlfriend in the mental hospital in a tail spin, so let her get better before you tell her, but I do think you should discuss this with her mental doctor and get some suggestions from him. If you like the new girl and she does not have the same kind of baggage this one has, then I would say go for the new girl. You just have to be careful because of the fragile condition mentally of the old girlfriend. It will take some advise, and also did you say she still likes you. If she has any reservations, then that is opening a door for you to discuss it and go on with the new one with no problems probably.
2006-11-13 02:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rhiannon,
My friend, all I can tell you is if you feel like your current girlfriend isn't working out for you then there is only one thing for you to do. You need to let her know how you feel and the sooner you tell her the better. Is this gonna be hard for her, absolutely. But, this is something that has to be done and needs to be done soon. She is gonna be heartbroken for a while, but I believe in the long run she is gonna respect you more for being up front and honest with her about your feelings. Good luck..........
2006-11-13 02:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by D.J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep both them on the go as long as possible. then go the threesome.
2006-11-13 02:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋