Well I am not a bragger so my sex life I keep it in the down low u know but my girlfriend thinks i am a virgin.. ok it was cause I told her should I tell her or Just keep it to myself she wont find out. She is a big Christian girl who believes in sex after marrige and i am just a horny lying bastard does this make me a bad person? and if she finds out will this affect the relationship.
2006-11-12 18:01:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not a horrible person. You're simply a liar. Which is an indication of one or two things. 1. You care enough about her to spare her feelings and you like her enough to be what she wants you to be or..2. You're just trying to turn her out. If you lied because you really like her then she may be understanding and if not then she may be really hurt and disappointed. I was once in this situation and I forgave him because I understand that most guys don't feel the same way about sex that I do and at least he cared about what I thought. Believe it or not some women understand that some men lie because they care. As sick as that sounds. Its not rt but in your situation if that's what you did then it probably won't affect the relationship because I'm sure she wasn't expecting an angel.
2006-11-12 18:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting off a relationship with deceit cannot be a good start. She has told you her beliefs and you have commited the lie of not correcting her mistaken belief about you.....
You have 2 choices:
1)Apologizefor your duplicity, seek forgiveness and take a vow of celibacy until marriage.
2) Realize that she is out of your league and you have blown any chance of winning such a nice girl as her, and walk away.
2006-11-12 18:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just all the things you said about yourself, but you should tell this girl, you are not a virgin. Maybe you are not the one for her, and she will make that choice. If you are man enough and can think with your brain and not your other part, then I think it would be wise under the circumstances to tell her the truth. let the cards fall where they may.
2006-11-12 18:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are a bad person, but I strongly believe you need to be honest with her. It will hurt her more to find out later on that you lied to her. It is extremely painful to have your trust breeched by lies.
If it is of big concern for her, there are ways to become born again virgins.
2006-11-12 18:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is never an issue for love....
It doesnt make you less of a person....
Will the "issue" affect your feelings for each other? It she makes a big deal out of it then.. there never was love on the first place.
2006-11-12 18:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better if you tell her now man, or else if you tell her at a later stage when the relationship is more 'deep' then its going to be worse. Tell her now, come clean and just start fresh with her.
2006-11-12 18:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by thugster17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it doesnt necesarily make you a bad person, but it doesnt make you the greatest person in the world. if she really truely likes you, she wont really care, other wise, yes i think that itll effect your relationship. just try telling the truth.
2006-11-12 18:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by sampolo193 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl aboves me right dude. If you lie youll never win. Straight Up.
2006-11-12 18:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Cody B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with her, and tell her. If she loves you she'll be able to loook past your past, and if your not planning on marrying her dont tell her because shes not planning on having sex with you anyways. but if you plan on marrying her tell hernow.
2006-11-12 18:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Linneas Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think U must be honest with her , If she love U & be sure that U love her honestly she will stay with U .
2006-11-12 18:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋