Me and my girlfriend can't meet that often, but yes we both love each other and are looking forward to a bright future. But because of the distance between us, we both have a fear that either of us may drift away from the other. I feel that someone may steal her from me and she feels that someone may steal me from her.
I know this feeling will arise, but we had decided that 'coz we love each other such an event will never occur. We decided not to raise this isue ever but still sometimes, such a topic rises and we both get very upset.
Why does this happen?? is there anyway apart from meeting by which we may overcome this fear?
2006-11-12 17:51:23 · 7 answers · asked by AB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exchange letter more often. Write her peoms, and she may write you smooch letters, etc. But this is a good news since you are both trying to do something and be together.
2006-11-12 17:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long distance is EXTREMELY hard. I've been in one for a while. And yes it's natural for those concerns to come up for the both of you. I think the main issue is a TRUST issue. You two have to learn to trust the other person. And with long distance, it takes a while to build trust.
You two need to talk about what you want from this relationship in order to continue on. Obviously you can deal with the distance for now, but it's more about trust. So just tell each other that if anyone ever feels insecure or unsure about something, then ask - but don't accuse. Neither of you should ever feel like you can't ask something cause you don't want to feel insecure or let the other person know. You both should be willing to do whatever it takes to make the other person feel secure. There's a fine line between being possessive or nosy, but overall, if you're asking questions like 'where'd you go today?' or 'who'd you hang out with tonight?' as simple questions - then it's fine.
The important thing to do is sit down and think about any reasons why you would feel insecure and address those issues. Don't tell her you don't trust her, but let her know there are certain situations that come up that make you feel worried and you two should figure out how to handle them when they do come up. It's called compromise and you two should help each other be comfortable with the relationship.
2006-11-13 01:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by WordToTheWise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even tho u both are in distance and love each other you both have to trust each other but it is very sad and delicate. you have to wait for the moment and one day dreams will come true.
I'm marrieds and he also and having same problem distance marriage kids and love it is ver especial there is no explanation
so only one thing we can do trust each other.
2006-11-13 04:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by PICK - INDIA - PORTUGAL LISBON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a situation befitting to be called as scared. But, if you both have mutual trust and faith distance, if on geographical will not not make any differing, one you both are mentally near.
2006-11-13 02:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey in today's time we have electronic media.. call her always.. send mail chat the list is endless.. u guys can speak the whole day on phone and still love each other
2006-11-13 10:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch with each other.
2006-11-13 03:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've two words for u bro, "Phone Sex"!
Lets face it, sex keeps a relationship closer than anything else.
2006-11-13 02:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Varan 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋