the disadvantages are obvious, STD's, immorality, distrust (i.e. if he had sex before he promised to spend his life with her, then he could do it to another girl after all, what was the promise he had made anyway?) the list goes on. but, other than "well, it feels good" what does sex before marrige bring? and don't say a deeper/better realationship, because that's not true at all. you dont get to know a gy but sucking him, just as much as you cnat know more about girl by her breast size.
2006-11-12 17:50:47 · 21 answers · asked by Daniel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i see a lot fo "test drive" but, does sex ever say, feel bad? no, so if you have nothing to compare it to then it's better. and std's are eliminated if virgins only had sex with virgins. i would agree that sex in a married life is important, but if something were to happen that you woundn't be able to have sex i owuld hope you wouldn't divorce.
2006-11-12 18:09:05 · update #1
one more note: i dont want to have to compare my wife, to other girls. because, she will get old and worse at sex if you catch my drift, so it doesn;t matter if they start off good becasue it's just going to get worse i assume. so, then your idea of good sex is tainted, is good sex what she used to be? or was it (fill in name)
p.s. yes, i do have balls. not all guys are immoral all the time.
2006-11-12 18:14:52 · update #2
I totally agree with you Daniel! I find no advantages at all....
You have a great point which is what's the true meaning of love? Seriously, do you know how good a man's mind is by sleeping with him? Or how caring a woman is by oral abilities? Or is marriage based on love, with no lust, just a pure love?!
EDIT:
JD: To be honest with you, I gave you thumbs down, not because you are honest, but because you have offended someone, nothing more. You could've been honest without calling people that you don't know names like "gay or fat". I didn't report you and I won't.
To all those who said that it will bring you closer to your partner: Don't you guys think there's another way? I mean do you have to "sleep" together to get closer? Why not TALK? Why not see i we are similar, if we are soul mates and if we are compatiable, mentally, not phyically? Do you actaully think that sex is EVERYTHING in a relationship? Well, it is your point of view and I respect it but I totally disagree.
Meggie: If we open the door to sex out of marriage, and sex out of no plans for marriage, you won't have sex with only one person! No, you will be changing your bfs like once a month or something! So the chances of getting sexually trasmitted diseases increases! While with marital sex, the husband and wife go through tests before marriage to make sure that they are healthy or at least that's what is supposed to happen! I respect your point as well.
About sexual compatibility: Ask yourself this question: If I'm like CRAZY in love with my fiance but in the wedding night they are a "pump chump or a pillow" as you said Flying Pig, would you leave them?! So what's the difference, you won't leave the love of your life because he/she doesn't know how to......?
I respect all your views people, but I agree with Daneil. I find absolutely no advantages of sex before marriage.
2006-11-12 17:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Drowned in English! 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Like other said, it's like test driving it out. Some people need to test drive a car cause they like to figure out how it handles, it feels to ride in the car etc. But some people don't care about that stuff and just want a car for looks, based on reviews, etc. So you yourself have to figure out what you care about more. Do you consider yourself someone who is into sex alot - like do you watch porn, do you often fantasize about sex - basically do you consider yourself a 'horny' person or if your mate is? You should figure out if sex is more of an experimental thing for you or if it's a deeper way to connect with someone. I know that might sound corny, but sex has a lot to do with a relationship after you're married. It is a very important part of a relationship in bringing your love to a physical/deeper connection level.
But I think the whole needing to do it to find out if you're sexual compatible is rubbish. As long as you both are physically attracted to each other, don't have a problem kissing/hugging each other, and there aren't problems with either one's sexual organs, then you should be fine - cause sexual escapades in the bedroom can be taught/learned.
2006-11-13 02:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by WordToTheWise 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well with that question...what benefits does sex after marriage have that doesnt benefit you beforehand? Sex is sex...its not going to be mindblowing your entire relationship together, you have to work everyday at making sure you are keeping the passion alive in and outside of the bedroom---married or not.
2006-11-13 02:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by jenmimo7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this. you find some one you think you absolutely love in every way. then on your wedding night they are either a two pump chump or a pillow that smiles occassionally. sexual compatiblity is important if you want to find someone to share all aspects of your life with. and if you've only had one partner you may always wonder if the sex u are havin is even, in comparitive terms, good.
2006-11-13 02:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a guys name, but you are so not a guy! Listen, sex is a very important part of a mature adult relationship and especially a marriage. Sexual incompatibility is a serious problem. The time to discover this is before you get married and have kids; not after. Everything else that you blathered on about is just plain clueless silliness.
2006-11-13 01:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you will know if you are able to have a good sexual relationship with this person. Do they know how to have good sex? Do they listen to you when you tell them what you want in sex? What do they expect in bed? Another person involved? Toys? S and M?
2006-11-13 01:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by C L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is a large part of relationships, I would want to make sure we enjoy each other sexually before getting married?
Than again i'm not religous...
2006-11-13 01:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you make very valid points, but as an old lady of 39, it is my way of test driving the car before i decide to buy...if there is no real chemistry, getting gmariied just to have sex wont help
2006-11-13 01:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are no advantages. Why buy the cow when the milk is free, so to speak. I don't think men really respect girls that jump into the sack, be different and demand respect. Don't lower yourself.
2006-11-13 01:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by shardf 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it has any
I mean if you've never had sex then when you get married you aren't going to know the difference if it's bad or good and if you really love them then i think it would have to be good.
2006-11-13 01:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by lil 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋