my mom hates me.im 17 years old im not done with school,i dont have a job but i feel like moving out some how, is there anything that i could do to leave this house?
2006-11-12 17:47:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not try to go it alone yet -- this global economy and high prices will make it extremely difficult to make it "normally" without an education. Just bite the bullet and remember that the teen years are the worst -- they will be over in a few years -- just hang in there! Remember that MOST of your life will be NOT the teen years!! (Phew, it's such a relief when you're no longer a teen!)
Your mom may be under some stress that you are unaware of -- she may not be telling you why she is feeling the way she is.
When you're on the computer, start googling things like: high school drop outs and jobs; low education and income; cost of living and low education -- things like that. Because you are not out there on your own yet, when you are, you will be shocked at how difficult it can be.
You don't want to be a loser, you want to be a winner. So, don't let your mom drag you down. Set your sights on a goal (graduating high school and going to college). If you are a good student, then you may get scholarships (talk to your school counselor both about colleges AND your parental difficulties...they will be confidential).
If you can just get yourself out of high school, and if your grades are not good enough for a good college, then you can definitely go to a community college. Get a part-time job and go to school part-time....but be in school!! Without an education beyond high school now, you will live in poverty. If you make a plan to finish your community college or college studies within a longer period of time than you would if you just went to college, (meaning you have to add in the time that it will take to work part-time), then you will feel more comfortable and have a goal.
By working part-time, you will be able to get a roommate, finish your higher education, and have freedom from your mom. But please don't drop out of high school. Many of us adults can certainly tell you that although you are away from your parents or out of high school, that life will still toss hurdles your way -- it is just a part of life. Be prepared for it by at least getting an education.
Hang in there and just remember your current situation is only temporary.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 13:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mother does not hate you. She might not like some of the things you do, but she still loves you. And I'm sure there are times when you think you hate her too. All teens have fights with their parents and get through it. Don't leave home until you have finished school and have a job or go to college. When you look back five years from now, you will wish you had all the comforts of home. Once you leave and have to work to support yourself, it's no bed of roses either. It lasts for the rest of your life, not just 18 years. Please enjoy what time you have left in your mother's home. Forever is a long time.
2006-11-13 02:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job...and move out. I highly doubt your Mom hates you..she may want you to grow up and that is where you feel her anger. Are you nice to her all time and not deserve some constructive feedback on your life/
Go find a job...have a talk with her...and really think if your ready to be a man out on your own yet.
2006-11-13 01:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could move with a family member or get a room mate and get a place with that person. it not easy but it could be done i left when i was 13 and work and work and went to school. and i look back and said to my self i did the right thing because school and bullshit dont mix. school and work mix but it not easy.w/love and b/strong.and smart
2006-11-13 02:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by SENSES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your harmones are raging. I betcha your mom does NOT hate you.
Concentrate on enjoying and finishing school. Please dont consider moving out until you have the means to do so. Independence is a wonderful feeling....
IF one is capable. And you've indicated that you're not quite ready yet.
2006-11-13 01:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might as well wait, If you think life at home is hard..... Try steppin into the real world.... The grass isn't always greener' ya know..
2006-11-13 01:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by goin_truck_racin06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have o pursue in getting your diploma first. Be patient. Maybe on the process you and your mom will be fine. you pray.
2006-11-13 02:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Flory M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your diploma first..turn 18 and then tackle the world...you will be glad you waited
2006-11-13 01:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋