Please help?

Question

I am a 15 year old girl and it feels like the world is against me but i try to push myself to do better. About a year and a half ago my worst fear came true. My heart and soul got crushed and ever since then my life has been hell. I was going through hell before { i have had depression since i was 11} but my best friend died a year and a half ago.. he was my evreything.. he picked me up when i was down.. some pepole dream of having someone like him in there life. When he died i didnt sleep. My mom took me to a phsyciatrist {sp} and she gave me medication but medication dont work. I have been on 3 different things and NOTHING works. I have 1 friend and i feel like i barely have that. I have no idea if im feeling this way because i am still in shock over his death or what.. I never go out side of the house unless I have to.. And i know your thinking " she should talk to her doc about it" but she dont understand what i go through on a day to day basis... Any advice on how to be happy

Any advice on how to be happy? Please awnser with your personal experiences or what you think.. Also, i can never go to bed at night unless its after 3

Answer 1

Two years ago, i lost my dearest friend in the whole world. You've described him perfectly - always there to pick me up when I was down... and yet, so much more.

Every now and then I see something and I'll tell who ever I am with - that Jimmy would really have appreciated that... I keep his spirit and memory alive within me. And I miss him terribly.

But, I'm here. I'm alive. I have a life. And it goes on. I know that no one will share their "jokes" with me like Jimmy and I would - because we accepted each other and our private conversations were not always acceptable in the mid-stream of life.

If you are looking for advise from a stranger - then here it is. Stay in school, do your best - make something of yourself in life. Learn to save, be independent - and learn to live. Maybe you can think of it as living for you and your friend -- making one good life for you and the memory of someone so dear to you.

By the way, the shock will wear off. It does take time - and not everyone will understand it. However, focus on the good times and stuff. Listen for your friend's voice. Your friend wouldn't want you miserable. Really. Take care.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you have been having problems with depression for the past 4 years. I used to work as a psych R.N. for many years and now have chronic depression myself. I know what a struggle trying to get better can be.

Have you found out the reason that you have been depressed since you were 11 y/o.? People can become depressed for many reasons. A good therapist would be able to help you figure that out. To find out what is causing the depression and resolving that would be a good start on becoming happy.

How did your friend cheer you up? Did you tell him your fears and did he give you reasons why you didn't have to be afraid?The things we tell ourselves in our self talk have a big bearing on how we feel.

One of the secrets of being happy is to tell ourselves the truth that is positive. When a glass is half full it is also half empty. To keep telling ourselves that it is 1/2 empty will produce sad or angry feelings. To tell ourselves it is 1/2 full produces feelings that are more positive. This is something that we have to make an effort to do. It does not come about on it's own.

There are many other things that are related to being happy or not. A good therapist would be able to help you see the things or ways of doing things that you need to change in order to be happier.

Just because 3 medicines didn't help with your depression, doesn't mean that there aren't others that will help. I had to try several and have to be on 2 antidepressants at their maximum dose.

God bless you. I hope something that I've said has been a help to you.

Answer 3

I was 15 once upon a time and remember that was a terrible time in my life my terrible life started when I was in grade school. You are but just a child and we have all dealt with the trauma of losing a loved one I have lost several and one just recently(less than a week ago) very good friend of mine. I am much older than you are and have grown to know what and how the Lord works and he is mysterious dear. He knows what he is doing my friend was 42 when God called him home. You have to put your faith and trust in Him He will get you through this hard time that you are having right now. Are you home schooled? It may help if you attended public school. Get out and meet new people. Take long walks go to the park get a pet. Being a teenager is hard enough but trying to be a teenager and losing a loved one is even harder. Your friend would want you to go on with your life and live it to the fullest. I often sit and think about my loved ones that have passed on and remember the good times we had and it brings a smile to my face or sometimes a chuckle. i wish you well dear and I hope I have helped you out a little.

Answer 4

sounds like your in hard shape. and i never had depression so i really cant helpt to much. Depending on where you are there are hotlines you can call for some good advise. My mother was bi-polar and she used them a few times. as far as being happy...depression frigs that all up becuase the things that would normaly make you happy tend not to. I would recomend a sport or activity that at least gets your mind off things. If you can do it and stick to it along with all your other responsibilites. try jogging or riding a bike. It gets my mind focused on something for a while. try to bring a friend or parent with you. If you tell them it would mean allot to you they might be able to find time to go.

Answer 5

sorry about you friend
but my life is sh!t to
im 16, so i have a good idea about what u mean
ive been depressed since 15
ive lost people to
ive lost good friends that i just hate and are not dead
and it all hurts soooo bad
i sometimes even wish for death
but i live anyway, knowing that one day i WILL be happy

but my life is depressing in a different way than your own

you know the guy that is always in the Clear Eyes commecials.......right.
well just imagine a life with the tone to match his voice and you got my @zz (a life as dull as the black and white ages)

but for you to be happy, i suggest you talk to the people you love the most (i think its better if they are somewhat young)
and dont expect a fast change, its common for happiness to take time to get back into you life

so im sayin you just need to talk and someone to listen
good luck

Answer 6

When a person takes birth in the earth, God has already decided the date on which such a person should reach the heavenly abode. I am not teaching you any Gospel but this is the truth of our life. Please accept this fact.

Medicines only suppress the depression and put you to sleep over. Please try the following.

Go to a park nearby your place in the morning when the dew is fresh. Walk on the grass barefoot for 5 minutes. The chill goes through your entire body and upto the brain. This helps in relaxing your brain. Afterwards put a spread on the grass and sit on it facing the east. Raising sun's rays have a lot of beneficial effects on our body. Please do breathing exercise for 5 minutes. Then do meditation for 5 minutes.

Within 10 days time you will find a lot of change in you for the batter. If you have any other doubts, please do contact me.

Answer 7

sweetie..it really does sound like you are having a rough time...i too have los someone very special in my life...but you need to remember that your friend would want you to live your life to the fullest...so live for him..do all the things he would have wanted you to do...you owe it to his memory

Answer 8

GURL BYE U NEED A DAMN LIFE(SORRY ABOUT YA FRIEND)