Well. She waited three weeks too tell me, So she says. But i asked her best friend, who says she hasent talked too him in three or so weeks. And when she did, she started crying, and then she finally told me, but she hinted at it, i freaked out, and actually fell down crying, and she said ''Cmere hunny ..'' took my hands and sat down with me and we discussed it.
She said they were walking, her legs got tired, so she stood up against a tree, they were alone, and he said, I love you, and kissed her, his lips were open, but hers were closed, and that she didint turn away or try and stop him, that she dazed out, and was thinking of me, and didint kiss him back ,or say i love you back, or didint say i miss you back, and then she walked away, she lost her trust in him, and shes sorry, and recently, i mentioned something to her, jokingly, about making out with Josh, she laughed and started going ew, and shuddering saying it was gross, and such, so does it look safe, or should i be worried?
2006-11-12 17:18:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it's always a good sign that she told you - no matter how long it took and even that, 3 weeks isn't that long.
What's important is to ask her if she told him that he can't do that anymore or if he knows that she is in a relationship. Things like that can happen and she can't control the first time, but it's really important she sets him in his place so that a second time can't occur. You can't blame him cause he's still in love with her (or whatever), but it up to her to make you feel comfortable with what happened and to assure you that it can't happen again.
But seeing you joked about it already, you might not want to bring it up again cause it might seem like you guys already were at an understanding but you are just being nitpicky. But since you're asking the question, it still bothers you, you should bring it up again one last time.
Just tell her you wanted to talk about something, and mention the topic. First and foremost, praise her having the courage to tell you about the situation and being open and honest - and that you appreciate that. Next just tell her that you're uncomfortable whenever them two hang out based on what happened - not that you don't trust her, but that you don't trust him. Next ask her if she set the boundaries and told him that what happened isn't appropriate and that he shouldn't do it anymore. In the end you should let her know that if her ex can't respect her wishes and moreover doesn't respect the relationship that you have with her, then it makes you very uncomfortable that he can't promise that he won't do it again. And you just don't want her to be in those situations. You aren't asking her to choose friends here, but you are asking her to help you be comfortable with the friendship.
2006-11-12 17:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by WordToTheWise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would she be walking with him? its partially her fault for putting herself in that situation, leading him on, then getting kissed. I would not like if my b/f was taking a walk with his ex no matter if it was from one street to the next. What took her so long to tell you??? If she is feeling guilty, then obviously she doesn't feel THAT innocent about the situation and may be cutting out parts of the story.
2006-11-13 01:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that it's safe... she loves you, and even thought it took 3 weeks, at least she told you... so that means she's been considering for a while how you'd react to it meaning that she doesn't want to lose you... and the fact that it forced on her so it's not her fault... and when you joked about it, if it was a true laugh from the heart, then you know for sure it's okay, if she fake-laughed then you know something's wrong...
2006-11-13 01:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by xiaoniao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries. Sounds like he caught her off guard. Just make sure she know not to hang around him anymore.
2006-11-13 01:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry i think its not a big deal for her. If u rili love your gf give your full trust! ;D
2006-11-13 01:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by ask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my dear .. donn worry .. She luvs u that's the reason she told u ..
2006-11-13 01:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, it didn't mean anything. Unless it happens again...
2006-11-13 01:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it meant something or she would have told u when it happened
2006-11-13 01:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It meant he wanted her back but she doesn't want him.
2006-11-13 01:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be worried
2006-11-13 01:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by jungle cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋