I dated a guy and we were very close friends but ended up getting into relationships with different people. Then those relationships dissolved and we were there for each other and slowly our feelings became more serious. However, his ex just so happens to have been a very close friend of mine. I felt weird about that although I dated him first. Anyway, we spent a lot of time together after our relationships ended but we both had baggage. Eventually it got to be too much and I cut him off. However, I really did and still do sort of have feelings for him. We've kissed but after my last relationship I was afraid of getting hurt again so I cut him off after an argument about me being too detached. His mother and I are very close and I miss him and to make matters worse we attend the same church. I feel like giving him another chance. Should I leave it alone or start over? BTW he asked me to let him know if I ever changed my mind.
2006-11-12 17:14:54 · 11 answers · asked by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about the reason you broke up in the first place. iF THOSE REASONS are resolvable, then you might try again. But if not, run away before your heart gets hurt again. Also, why did your friend break up with him? That might give you a clue to tell if this guy the relationship material you want.
2006-11-12 17:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. Tell him how you feel. If he feels the same start anew. As for baggage most adults have it. It comes with being an adult. You also need to realize that you can't judge him or any relationship that you two have together by your previous experiences. This would be unfair to both of you and be damaging to YOUR relationship together. Remember everyone is different and just because boyfriend A acted a certain way doesn't mean that other men will.
2006-11-12 17:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if your both on the same track, are you looking for the same kind of relationship? Did you both get the baggage "thing" under control? If so and you really care for each other you should give it one more shot, otherwise, leave it alone.
2006-11-12 17:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is all about hurt and pain only you can make it better i am 41yrs old and not happy because i got hurt 1x and never moved on life is all about a sore if you bruise your knee it heals but it takes time look at life like that its going to hurt how do you expect to find the right one if you dont get bruised in he process then to it may not happen like that life is all about chances and if you dont forgive your pass it will come back and hunt you for the rest of your life and you will never be happy look at me i am answering questions all nite because i havent let go of the past its been 18 yrs you learn from mistakes and get better in life so go head and make sure you forgive the one that really hurt you
2006-11-12 17:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Judy D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he make you happy? If he does, then why are you depriving yourself of that happiness?
But if you'll choose to pursue a relationship with him, make sure that your unnecessary baggages are left behind. Carrying all those weight will surely wear you and your relationship with him down.
2006-11-12 17:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by peanut butter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur situation is too complicated to be understood,instead of complicating thngs nemore decide what u want and take a plunge
2006-11-12 17:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by vish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your destiny is in your hand. Fickle minds never succeed.
2006-11-12 17:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think is worth it, give it onoda chance. love works in misterious ways.
2006-11-12 17:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by geovanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its always good to start over no best
well if u need help i m here for help
2006-11-12 17:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him get his opinion. that could make your decition way easier.
2006-11-12 17:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by signalfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋