I asked two questions. I could be losing my gf the girl I love so much I see her in my future and she says she sees me in hers. I ask for help about what to do cuz shes pushing me away, not letting me in , not telling me whats wrong with her. I asked for realy advice and only 4 people answered. What is with the rest of you? Do I have to keep on asking dumb questions for you answer by the load?
2006-11-12 17:06:51 · 20 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really want to give advice ill tell you whats going on. Shes pushing me away she wont tell me whats going on and when i ask she says "shhh baby I want u so bad" then we do it and once its all over shes back to being distant and cold. Its like talking to a wall at times.
2006-11-12 17:09:04 · update #1
she's avoiding something. is she cheating on you? some girls will spill their guts normally unless its something really serious or naughty. if you find it hard to understand her then sadly you might have to break it off. :(
2006-11-12 17:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is the first time I've seen your question, since I just got on. So... with that said:
The MOST important thing in a relationship, especially if it is going to last in the future, is COMMUNICATION. If she's not communicating with you and you've tried absolutely everything you can... then it's not your fault. It's hers. And if she's not willing to communicate, then no matter how much you love each other and how much you both want to be together, it won't work. I'm sorry to say.
You mean she is pushing you away emotionally? But not physically... it could be a couple of reasons. For one, she may be using you. OR there may be something in her past that is painful to share with you and is causing this behavior. OR maybe she equates physical relationship with love and ignores all the rest of the parts that a relationship is made up of: respect, communication, honesty, trust... etc.
It's hard to tell what's going on from just what you've said. The only one who will be able to tell you how to reach her is someone that knows her. You or one of her friends or family members. Good luck to you.
2006-11-12 17:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa-chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe since she made the comment about seeing you in her future she has had a change of mind and does not want to hurt you by just telling it like it is. In reality if that's the case she should just say it and get it over because its not fair to string someone along.
The people out here in cyberspace do not know what the situation is.....maybe you are coming on to strong and she's backing away. Only you know.
Now after reading your additional details she sounds like she is a little wacko...move on. Then again... if you want free sex, stick around just try not to be emotionally involved with her.
2006-11-12 17:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's a private issue. Some people like keeping things to themselves. We all have our secrets and problems that we do not want others to know. Give her some time and stay with her when she needs you the most. It seems like she cares about you a lot and you should do the same. When she's ready and feels comfortable she'll tell you herself what's wrong. Hope I helped!
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2006-11-12 17:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No please don't ask dumb questions. I didn't see your last 2 questions. As far as how to get her to open up. All you can do is tell her how you feel and you want to try and fix what is wrong, but you can't do that if you don't know what the problem is.
2006-11-12 17:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something is wrong with your GF you need to give her space to find the right time to you. Let her know you care, do sweet things for her just cause and let her know that she can talk to you about anything.
2006-11-12 17:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by shelbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well she might be going through a hard time and just make it clear that you are there for her. Remember actions speak louder than words. buy her roses or somehting that makes her feel special and tell her how you feel about things and dont forget to make sure that you are ALWAYS there when she wants to come to you. Other than that dont act like she has to tell you.
2006-11-12 17:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone here is serious. Give her some time but let her know that you're waiting for her. if she pushes you away after sex then watch out she only wants the sex
2006-11-12 17:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by vilasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dude, if she is pushing you away, no matter what she is saying, she does not mean it. Move on and quit cry babying about it, nor asking this question any more.
2006-11-12 17:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
youre doing everything you can to figure out whats wrong..the rest is up to her..just tell her that you'll be there for her if she needs to talk..ur right everyone does only answer stupid questions lol
2006-11-12 17:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know something
not everything is meant to be solved together
give her some time to figure out her life for herslf
it doesn't mean that you and her are over.. just cut her some slack
2006-11-12 17:09:46 · answer #11 · answered by lady_available_4luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋