2006-11-12 16:50:59 · 13 answers · asked by m_es_84 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
The main thing you need to do is sit him down and tell him that this type of behavior is not acceptable to you. Yes, tell him you love him, but he needs to respect you that you are his mother, an adult and he must respect you when you tell him to do something. If he does not listen to you or disrespects you, then you can have him sit on the end of his bed with his hands folded on his lap. No toys, No radio, No Tv, No friends can call or visit. This time out would be for at least 7 minutes (reccomended one minute per one year of age).
If he has an allowance You can tell him he will get a quarter less each time he messes up. The more he messes up, the less allowance he gets.
You can also do a "rewards" jar. For good behavior...this means treating you with respect, doing what he asks, and doing all of his chores with out any problems, doing good in school...you can add a quarter each day as an extra bonus to his allowance if he gets an allowance.
Good Luck :-)
2006-11-12 17:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you figure it out let me know. I have 9 and 5 yr old sons, and a 4 yr old daughter. I have tried everything from sitting in the corner to taking them "behind the wood shed" (so to speak) and nothing is working, atleast on the home front. I think when they get in school they are around so many kids that dont respect their parents or any adult, because their parents dont care, and those of us who do suffer. I put my son in Cub Scouts when he was in 1st grade. Some of the stuff we do and learn in Scouting has helped with his attitudes. I keep reminding him about the core values and those things we learn. I can say he has more respect for his Scout leader then he does me sometimes... Good luck, its a road we all travel at some point...
2006-11-13 00:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by kutskova29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are good that you are inconsistant in your own behavior. Are you unable to stick to a decision? When your kid wants to do something you think is not a great idea I'll bet you say no at first then after much whining you change your mind and say OK. No child will respect behavior like that. The kid does not respect you because you do not act consistantly, and you will never get respect until you can stick to your word. You are weak-willed and the child knows it, the kid is the boss. Get some professional help.
2006-11-12 17:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by freddyderf55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 7 years old, a child is old enough to know that he will be punished if he misbehaves. You obviously have not been willing to explain that to him.
Get a ping pong paddle and tell him he will be spanked on the bare bottom the next time he disrespects you. Give him only one warning before you do it.
Have him stand in front of you and have him lower his pants to receive the over the knee spanking. Do not spank in anger but spank long enough to make his bottom bright pink. This will teach him that you are to be respected.
2006-11-13 06:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't be his friend, and be a mother! dicipline him and don't let him cross the line, which sounds like you did a good job of!
He not only disrespects you, he does not listen to you. YOu need to be strict! ground him, spank him! show him who is in charge...
why do mothers do this? i don't understand why mothers like you won't dicipline their kids right from the start...don't you know he could end up hitting you one day if you let him be in control..
For the next month..you have to start being strict and don't give into his temper tantrum..don't...i have a feeling you do. if you continue with this..you will create a monster at home and in society!
2006-11-13 02:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to pick your battles and don't let him win any...I mean, choose what to make an issue of, and make sure you follow through.
for instance, set a bedtime, give him advance notice and maybe a 5 min warning, and them make doggone sure that at the time you set, he is in bed, if you have to pick him up and put him there. be fair but be very clear, and always follow through once you've given him a directive.
don't do the "no, no, no,...oh well he never listens" thing. that teaches them to disregard what you say. if you ever say no, MEAN it.
2006-11-12 16:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem and it turns out i was the problem. He saw me more as his buddy and his playmate than his parent and authority figure you just have to clamp down be firm but be fair make sure he knows you still love him. It was hard for me to do that but its a fine line. In the long run hell thank you for it.
2006-11-12 16:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be hard respect should have been taught at an early age !!! Stand on your ground! If you say NO then let it be NO and dont change your opinion
2006-11-12 16:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to the methods of parenting your folks gave you as a child.
2006-11-12 16:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent in EVERYTHING you do. Don't sway - as hard as it will be. Make rules, post them. If he doesn't follow them, take something away that he likes. If it's money he likes, charge him 50 cents for not following.
2006-11-12 16:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by 2Good4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋