My son is in the terrible twos age. What is the best way of discipline besides time out?

Answer 1

Well, I've heard this a lot as a remedy for the terrible twos- the naughty chair..or whatever you call it.
Basically, if your two-year-old is bad, he gets time out, but it's on a chair where you will watch him and he must keep completely quiet and still or he won't get out. If your little tyke is a little bit more disobedient, most moms will make the "naughty chair" uncomfortable in some way.

Answer 2

The best discipline is when the consequence is directly related to the behavior. It is best when you don't have to intervene at all. For example, if the child pulls the cat's tail, then the cat runs away. Child goes out in the rain without a coat, he gets wet. (Don't use this type of thing if the child can get hurt; child runs in the road, he gets hit). Try to relate the discipline to the behavior yourself; child throws a block, the blocks go on time out.

Try reading the book "Parenting with Love and Logic" by Jim Faye and Foster Cline or "How to Win at Parenting Without Beating Your Kids" by Barbara Colorasso

Answer 3

Part of the problem with two-year-olds is that they are old enough to know what they want and know that they are not "one with you" (as they once thought they were), but they aren't emotionally able to deal with the frustration of not being able to do or have what they want. They're smart enough to know some stuff about the world (small as their world may be), but they can't yet understand why they just can't do or have things. Sometimes, too, a two-year-old may try to keep up with older children; and that is frustrating for them.

Also, a trigger for tantrums is when a two-year-old gets no warning about something like, say, leaving the park.

They are so little they pretty much still know everyone else is bigger than they are. Imagine what its like to be in a world with big people who won't let you do or have what you want. They're aware of their helplessness, and that helplessness is something they try to do something about by putting up a fight. Sometimes it isn't even that they're trying to get their way. They are sometimes just frustrated and upset and not emotionally mature to handle the frustration. On top of it, its often the person they love most and are closest to who frustrates them!

A tired or hungry two-year old is worse still.

Try to prevent the situations that bring on temper tantrums. When it comes to other behavior try to limit the time he is left to just do whatever he thinks up. Break up the time by spending time doing something with him, then let him play somewhere safe, then get his lunch, then let him play, etc.

If there's a bath or leaving the playground or anything else that could bring up a confrontation give him warning about it by telling him, "After you eat your dinner we can do your bath." Mention it a few times, mention how he can bring a boat in with him, and make things he'll be doing sound like he'll be having a great time.

Avoid situations (just for now - he'll be three soon) where things are too hard to deal with. Always try to let him have things that will keep him busy, no matter where you are (in the car, in the shopping cart, at the bank, etc.). He doesn't have to have big, new, toys all the time - just some little thing that will keep his mind occupied (sometimes a box of crackers with a cat on it or characters would be enough, sometimes there are small but interesting toys like a couple of dinosaurs that can talk to each other, etc.).

Some of what he does he doesn't realize is wrong. He's just being two. If he does something tell him he can't do that. Tell him why, and then get his mind on something else. If he really keeps going back and insisting on doing the thing bring him out of the room and tell him he can't go back to play because he keeps doing whatever it is. In another room, find something to get his mind on. He'll have learned the lesson without feeling like he has been punished for what may not have been something bad but was just something you don't want him doing.

For children this age, discipline is more teaching than punishing. If he does something like hurt someone make a bigger deal out of it, but save your "really not pleased" face for the big stuff.

Answer 4

First make sure you are totally understanding what your son is going they right now. He is learning his emotions..wanting to make his own decisions on things..exploring the world..Children at the age of 2 are very emotional. That does not make them "bad". They have not learnt how to deal with them as of yet. They are not little adults who can comprehend and control their emotions. Their world gets turned upside down if they have to change what they are doing without warning. IE..he is playing...mom comes up and says nap time..He had no prior warning nap was coming. What he was doing was important to him and he needs time to finish it..and lots of warnings soon it will be nap time. Also, make sure you let im know what is happening thru the day..:Mommy is making lunch now.."..Let him help how ever he can if he wants. Understand that just saying "No" to him will not help him understand. Positive guidance will help him tho...Redirection in a positive, nurturing way will help him learn more than simply giving him a sharp yell or slap. Try to keep in mind, he is still learning how to cope with all of his emotions..and how to deal with every day situations that you and i take for granted..for him..it is a big deal.

Answer 5

First stop calling it the Terrible Twos and call it the Terriffic Twos. Second he is just begining to relize he is a person
Third he is not old enough for time out
Fourth if he is doing something you don't like distract him with a toy or something

Answer 6

It depends on the situation at hand. If they do something that they aren't supposed to then punish them. I made my older daughter take one of her toys every time she was bad and put it in a box. and then if she had a day where she was good all day or did something that was really good, she'd get to take one toy back out.

if they do something mean to you, another kid or adult. then tell them why it was wrong and make them say sorry. My youngest is only 18 months old, she can't say "sorry" yet, but she'll hug you. LOL. If they refuse to, then make them go to time out or sit out on whatever fun is going on until they change their mind.

If they're throwing a fit, time out is the only way to go. If you are in a public place or a friends/familys house and feel uncomfortable with letting them scream, then take them outside or to the car until they calm down. (anyone who has a child will sympathize with you).

Terrible twos is all about testing limits and bounderies. So whatever you decide to do, just make sure you stick to it and follow through every time.

Answer 7

Cut the t.v., take away a favorite toy temporarily, try to explain why the bad things have consequences, they do understand some of it.

Answer 8

Hmmm depends on the situation. I noticed that taking privilleges away for instance helped... and if he was rude or ugly to me or his dad, we would ignore him and pretend we didnt hear... good luck, they say it gets better... i am still waiting for the better part!!

Answer 9

give them choices