So I really like this guy at work. He's just one of those really nice guys that are great to be around. He's just awesome. He also SEEMS to flirt a lot, but my guess is that is his natural personality. Sometimes he'll give me hugs and he'll poke me a lot and tells me I'm just so sweet (but he's also a bit playful/sarcastic so..) I don't know. I really really like him and sometimes it seems like he likes me? But! Big Problem: He has a girlfriend. Yeah.. so um.. I think I need to get over it... any suggestions? Thanku :] Its bugging so much! He is all friendly and I love it but it just it sort of hurts when you really like them but you know it will never work out you know?
2006-11-12 16:47:59 · 14 answers · asked by genuine♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be wary of him. He may have feelings for you but he also still has feelings for his girlfriend. Even if he was to break it off with this girl there will be baggage. Do you think you would want to deal with the baggage? Besides even if it was to work in your favor and the two of you hit it off....whose to say he doesn't do the same thing to you with some other girl??
Hope this helps..
2006-11-12 16:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. I flirt and joke and do all the same things, and I also have a girlfriend.
If I were you, I would talk about the relationship between him and his girlfriend (Like girls have done to me) and if it seems like it is falling apart, mention that he should give it up if there is no love or anything in the relationship, basically meaning it is dead. And if it is so, joke around with him (While he is single) and after you think he likes you more than the rest, offer to go to coffee or something onetime. If he says no ask again in a week or so and if he still says no maybe he doesn't like you.
But go with what you feel. Don't put any moves on him until he is single though, because that is messed up if you do.
2006-11-13 00:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nuke21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player to me!! The way you described him he just sounds like one of those guys that needs extra attention from females, I'm not saying he isn't attracted to you but, do you really want a guy that's flirting with another girl(you) when he has a girlfriend? BEWARE of guys like this because if you would end up with him than eventually you would be the girlfriend and someone else would be asking us this question about him!!
2006-11-13 00:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't KNOW that it will never work out! Girlfriends come and go! Guard your heart but flirt shamelessly, girl! Be a friend and be a flirt. Why not? He's not married! Just go on with your life - date other guys, whatever. Someday you'll find yourselves single and available, and if you're still friends, the relationship may become more! GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-13 00:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by thyladydulcinea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep-up mainten your sweetness to him and never make a move that you like him crazily. Mainten your moves in your daily works, let him do his chores of teasing you at all, control yourself not to be hurts with his sarcastic attitudes, feel it normal about his attitudes, work with him as natural. In the long run, when he tired of his GF and having a problem, he will open up to his close friends like you of his personal problems, maybe one of them will be his GF's quarrel, and that's the time he will ask your advises to be conforted, you can enter to the scene....give him the moves by conforting him, the signs how you care for him , how you like him.... Good Luck>>>>
2006-11-13 00:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's generally not a good idea to date people you work with. but even worse if he already has a girlfriend!
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if you do end up winning him over and he dumps his girlfriend for you, chances are, he'll continue to flirt with others, and who knows, you may end up getting dumped too.
seems like he's a good guy and you get along great at friends.. i'd leave it at that..
2006-11-13 00:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a lot of difference between like and love,if you think you just like that guy i think you can still help it,besides he had a girlfriend and if he really likes you,he will make a move to court you,but not in a flirting way....but if you think you love that guy go on...tell him what you feel,i know it is hard to do.....but you have to,who knows.....if that guy also like you or should i say falling for you?theres no harm on trying,just be true to your self,if you hurt???dont be upset,...because ones in your life you know you fell inlove.........nwie goodluck to you and i hope this simple advice can help you,......heres my e mail thaz_chielzkie23@yahoo.com just send me a message if you need some one to talk to....
2006-11-13 01:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by thaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, work relationships are usually a bad idea. Kinda like pooping in your dinner plate. Things go bad and one of the two might be too uncomfortable to go to work, or it gets in the way of productivity, etc.
Secondly, you say the guy is involved? Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel?
2006-11-13 00:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend and flirting around with you.
What if u are his girlf friend and he continues flirting with other gals?
Well move on, he is just having fun and playing around.
Dont fall for that. If he is bugging you, try to avoid him a bit to tell him you arent that easy gal to flirt around with.
2006-11-13 00:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a charmer and may be a player. I think you need to stop letting him hug and poke you and just be very polite with him.
look for a guy who walks the walk. you don't need a guy who has already demonstrated inappropriate behavior while in a relationship.
best,
cryllie
2006-11-13 00:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋