There is this guy and we have know each other for nine months.We are just friends with benefits but I feel like sometimes he's serious he tells me he loves me and i'm such a cool person.In the begining I really liked him and thought i loved him. But lately i just want to end it i feel sooo used, he is so sweet to me but after we have sex I feel used. The reason I am so confused is because he tells me that he has never met anyone like me and would be sad if we stopped talking, he even asked me to be his girlfriend but I said no because I felt like he was just saying it just to say it. I dunno what to do because I really like him too, I tell him everything but I can't seem to let him go, eventhough I feel so horrible after having sex with him that I cry.
2006-11-12 16:47:30 · 7 answers · asked by melyssa star 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound like your just confused. you need to figure out what you want 1st. do you want him or not? has it ever occurred to you that he really might mean all those things he said to you. the question is deep down do you even want him to feel that way w/ you or are you happy just being a booty call?
2006-11-12 16:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem, finally i just asked him if we could talk and i told him how i felt. We are still good friends but without the benefits. In fact we are taking the same college class together and we both are in a serious relationship.
2006-11-12 16:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't shoot the messenger but sometimes love and intimate emotions can be very scarey and difficult to deal with. As they say there is a right time for everything so don't feel compelled to make someone else happy at your own expense.
2006-11-12 16:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by seamusadams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal you are confused. you are young..and these emotions of love, sex, friendship, closeness, loneliness and togetherness are something new to your system..and you are being tested. now, the advice. do not feel bad...about anything..the key is to move on doing other things..volunteer work, reading, hobby, craft, getting involved...study etc...etc..the more you move with the activity the more -- the relationship is buried under new events..good friends are helpful too..but the list above is a good start. start now.
2006-11-12 16:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by s t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in one of those kind of except my friend doesnt love me and he doesnt want me like that.......love your self dont be friends with benefits.....what benefit do you get.....confusion, tears, sadness, is sex really worth it.......love your self first .....the sadest thing is i should be telling myself all this...good luck
2006-11-12 16:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by gemini_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on.
2006-11-12 16:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm......i dont know...want me to kill him?
2006-11-12 16:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋