my son put a knife to my back tonight and threatened to stab me...i dont know how much more i can take...he was diagnosed bipolar two years ago and it just keeps getting worse...and for all the self righteousl ones who might answer with well have you tried this or have you tried that...well duh, yes i have tried everything that i am capable of trying...i would not even be considering this horrible prospect if i hadnt...he has been in and out of the hospital, intensive weekly counseling, medications, NOTHING works....we have no doors left in our apartment because he has smashed them all in...along with holes in every wall and kitchen cupboards ripped off...to answer other common questions...cant afford to send him to bootcamp i dont receive child support, can barely afford to pay the bills...dont have any family to help either so if any one has some non self righteous suggestions i would appreciate the help
2006-11-12 16:46:01 · 19 answers · asked by pey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I suggest calling your local child protective services, they can offer you immediate help, that will not cost a thing. If adoption is the answer for you, they can help you with that also. They will probably take him immediatly and get him help, and you also. I am not saying something is wrong with you, I mean they can help you with coping with all of this burden. My prayers go out to you. Good Luck!! Oh, and they are a 24 hour service, so does not have to wait til certain hours.
2006-11-12 16:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by PROUD wife of a soldier in Iraq 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Is there a Division of Child and Family Services where you live? If so, call them. They can help you. If not, you probably should call the police. With my son, we even put an alarm on his door...with no success. We finally had to get the police involved. As horrible as that sounds, it was the best thing we could have done. It sounds as if your son is tearing your life apart. If you have tried all those things for him maybe you need to start worrying about yourself. It's a hard fact but sometimes it is the only thing you can do. Good luck, my thoughts are with you.
2006-11-12 16:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by loved one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing to do as a parent is realizing you are past the threshold of helping your child and you are lost.
This kid is trying to live, but doesn't have the skills to cope. Some of that is due to his illness and the other part is due to his age. They all think they know everything at this age...guess in a way they do...they know how to turn our lives upside down.
You have many options to help you. You can call the Domestic Violence hotline and they will give you some avenues, Children Youth and Family's can help, Youth Empowerment Services can help and even your own hospital can give you assistance (if they are state owned).
You really need to decide for yourself if you have to give up and let it become his problem. You also need to decide if you and or can't help him anymore. You also need to take care of you..which means talking with someone who knows what you are going through and there are groups out there to help.
Call someone tonight or first thing in the morning before something terrible happens and no one can help.
I think if you want this to end you have to make it end...I'm sorry but have faith.
2006-11-12 18:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one because there are only so many things that won't cost you a hell of a lot of money.
Is he old enough for you to get the police involved? Would you consider kicking him out of home? I'm not sure about adoption... I suppose you can leave him with a foster family but I'm not quite sure how that works. This is really quite sad because nothing seems to be working for you.
Another alternative is to check him into a mental health campus.. but then again it's a matter of funds...
Sorry I have nothing better to offer you. It's a tough situation but I hope you work it out.
2006-11-12 16:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by kismet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through (really) my brother in law & nephew are bi polar. Your best bet is to clear the slate, start new, find him a new phycologist I do not know if you have been told , ut most people that are bipolar switch meds on adveradge 80 times before finding something that works, also most bipolars have a trigger, for instince my brother in law "goes off" when you say I understand or tell me whats wrong. I know it is odd, but your son has a imbalance & he needs you. Here is a link to a great site that helps parents of bi polar teens & pre teens. Good Luck
2006-11-12 17:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your child might be eligible for assitants (public aid) and if so look for a home that would take him in. There is many homes for the mentally disabled. My bestfriend has a sister with bi-polar and is as bad as your son and she has been too a few in illinois and one in wisconsin.
My prayers go out to you
ALOT of times child protective ervices wont do a damn thing trust me Ive seen my bestfriend go thru this with her baby sister
2006-11-12 16:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very sad to have to do, but I would either call the police or have him taken away by child protection services. Change your locks and tell him he can't come back until he gets help.
2006-11-12 16:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by 2Good4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Julie has the right idea. Call family services. You need him away from you now if he's that dangerous and the county can help. Good luck.
2006-11-12 16:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This Might Be Something You Need TO Discuss With CPS. ( CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES ) they might be able to assist you with this problem i dealt with close to the same thing with my nephew they might place him in a protective custody type thing for his own safety and yours while you figure out what to do next.
2006-11-12 22:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by zippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call the police. in some states u can kick him out on the streets at the age of 16. u might beable to put him in a mental hostpital if u tell them the whole situation. or send him off to a bootcamp or put him in a disiplinary program
2006-11-12 17:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋