I was raped by my xboyfriend, just after my 15th birthday. I didn't report it for a number of reasons. I was sexually abbused by an other guy (who knew what had happened and he promised he wouldn't hurt me although i know realise that wasn't true). I told the 2nd guy I didn't want to see him ever again and he's left me alone but my xboyfriend I still see often. I saw therapists and was on anti-depressants and i'm getting much better, i've accepted it but it still hurts. I just want to know if it ever gets easier? I know it's never going to go away. What can I do to make it easier?
2006-11-12 16:40:23 · 6 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm almost 17 and i'm not telling my parents, they wouldn't care...
2006-11-12 16:48:36 · update #1
My therapist told me that less than 2% of all reported rapes are taken to court.... and even less are found guilty. I'm trying to move on and going to the police is just going to bring it all back and not help me. I know that other people could be raped by him but he's going out with a girl i know now and i told her to be careful around him and not to be alone with him.
2006-11-12 17:50:33 · update #2
Thank you bogie. I hav already found that person he has been there for my right from the start and i wouldn't be here if it wasn't for him. I have learnt to deal with it but it still hurts. I can't talk to my parents. I've been to a few counsellors but none of them have helpt. Just my best friend... he's absoultly amazing i owe him everything...
2006-11-12 22:06:19 · update #3
Wby,
Honestly, you never really get over it - but you do learn how to cope in life and defend yourself so it never happens again.
One day, I hope when you are older and more mature, you will find someone to build your lives together with. Not just a lover, but a best friend. Someone you can really trust. That is the best way to get over it.
Please do not hold this stuff in. If you have parents you cannot talk to, find yourself a guidance counselor you can trust, a priest, an adult -- and don't hold back. Because of your age - both can be prosecuted. YOU have done nothing wrong. YOU are never to blame yourself for the actions of these men. YOU are a child who has been thrown into a very difficult position in life - PLEASE find someone you can talk to comfortably to help you adjust and continue to live.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-12 21:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bogie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to say I'm very sorry about what happen to you. You need to tell your parents. This person shouldn't get away with what he did to you. If he gets away with it, it's like he's thinking that it's okay to treat all woman the way he treated you. I'm sure your parents will stand behind you 100% because they love you. You will always remember what this guy did to you, but as time goes on hopefully you will be able to keep it in your past and not let it interfere with your future. Again if I were you I would have this guy arrested. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-11-13 01:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by heartyangel98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time, you will heal greatly. The more you talk about it, the better you'll feel. With any traumatic event, as time goes by, you will remember the memory, but the emotions will gradually go away. What remains in your mind will only be a mental picture of that event. So don't worry. Things will become bright and sunny.
2006-11-13 00:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring it out in the open then the healing can begin. If you don't stop him now he will think he can always get away with it. So the other who get rape by this person could have been saved by you. So save yourself and save them. Tell some who cares like your parents.
2006-11-13 00:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by clr36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.
I was raped when I was 13.
I am 18 now and It still hurts.
Its a long process of healing.
2006-11-13 16:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Corie Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. Its there job to protect you and seek justice for these crimes.
2006-11-13 00:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by landersonjr1958 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋