I'm a single dad of three, and for the last four years my life was my children and work. That's it, that's all... And you know what? I wouldn't have had it any other way.
For four years I've had my kids two weeks on and two weeks off, so half the time. Actually more because their mom has other things she'd rather do than be with her kids, so she's always leaving them with me on her weeks. And I'm happy to get them. If I had it my way, they'd be with me all the time.
They're older now... 11-16, so I've started dating again... but I only see my girlfriend about once a week (when I have my kids with me). That will increase, but slowly.
Social times are usually with the kids, whatever we're doing.
But truly, that's the way I want it. My kids come first and the best thing I'll ever do with my life is to raise my children
2006-11-12 16:42:46
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answered by Anonymous
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Being a single dad of two myself, I have to say that having a life outside of the home is not easy. You really have to make time for yourself though, otherwise your life is going to just pass you by and you are going to end up lonely and bitter. Friends and family are key in helping you with babysitting and that sort of thing. Also, If she is not able to take the kids, you need to get a court order saying you are the primary caregiver, and get the child support order changed so that she is paying you. The kids have been with you since August. Has she seen the kids at all since then? If not, this could be considered abandonment by the court.
2006-11-12 16:45:35
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answered by jare bare 6
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Sounds like you are doing a great job. I am a single mother and I recently lost my job only to find another one that pays me about $500 less a month...not sure what I am going to do financially, but my family is there to help when they can.
I am also a full time college student and I work full time. Its going to be hard, but look at the bright side, you have your kids with you all the time now.
As far as child support goes, you rock for paying it!! My kids dad owes me so much...but you need to go to mediation again and change the visitation to what it actually is right now and get the support stopped...you shouldn't have to pay support when you are the one supporting them.
2006-11-12 16:40:05
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answered by divinephi 3
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First priority is being a dad. Sounds like you have a full life. Cut out anything you can do without and give yourself a brake. Maybe cut out a few classes until the kids are back with mom.
I worked with a man who had two boys and divorced. He bought a house next door to his ex in laws so he could see his boys when they came to visit grandma as well as his visitation time, which he never missed. He did not remarry or date. He worked 3rd shift so there would never be anything in his kids lives he had to miss.
I didn't know any of this until he did get married. The boys were out of school. Good looking guy and obviously far ahead of most in keeping priorities straight.
2006-11-12 16:49:37
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answered by howdigethere 5
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Your probably doing the hardest job in the world....being a single dad. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders by going back to college and gettting out of a bad relationship with the mother of the kids.
You probably feel more stress now bc you are use to having the fall season to focus on school and be "kid free". You have to make time for yourself sometime or you will burn out.
Not sure why you put how much you make a month up on a website...never a good idea...lol.
2006-11-12 16:48:16
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answered by KA 2
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What a very considerate and loving gesture - you sound to be a thoroughly intense-high quality female and that i'm constructive your Dad appreciates you each and daily. i think of he merits extra suitable than a pair of socks, do no longer you? yet at 14 you're in all probability no longer able to take the kinfolk on holiday! So why no longer ask your self him with an invite to connect you and your brother for an astounding holiday one weekend on the beach interior the school trip journeys; you come to a determination the place your Dad wish (as he would be driving) or maybe you are able to all bypass on a convention journey so he can relax too! i'm constructive he will savour your sort techniques - yet maximum of all, a super hug and remind him how particular and what an astounding Dad he's, would be advantageous. and that i reckon he in all probability thinks which you're advantageous already! in line with probability you are able to bathe the automobile too in some unspecified time interior the destiny before you bypass (whether you do bypass on the practice). Have an astounding time!
2016-12-10 08:07:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Not going to give a lecture on what to do....Would like to commend any single parent out there, who most of the time gets little to no recognition! You put yourself last for everything!!! Struggle with the ex's, while having to deal with an ear ache, getting them off to school, cooking, cleaning, working, exhausted!!!! While trying to pay the bills, have a good xmas, keep the car running, braces.....the list is endless!!! I have been married a long time, I do not know how you all do it! but let me say, YOU are making a difference, by loving them that much TO put yourselves last, they will be good people when they grow up, and will appreciate what you have sacrificed, and they will be good parents because YOU were!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-12 16:59:09
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answered by Anonymous
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Take custody of your children. You are paying chid support and she is homeless. You can find a good sitter or day care. You may be able to give them a more stable home life.
2006-11-12 16:37:52
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answered by shyone 3
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You put the kids first.
2006-11-12 16:39:51
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answered by Anonymous
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do not no BUT being a DAD you got two
2006-11-12 16:38:30
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answered by gary a 2
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