i had sex with a friend. we were friends with benefits for a few weeks, but he said i was getting too close. now, admittedly, i do like him as more than a friend. but i would never push him into something. we are friends again, but had some adjustment aurguments because of the intimacy we once shared. i asked him if the sex was bad or something, and he said 'no, the sex was great, but i only think of you as a friend.' i said 'i know that, i never asked for promises, just a date when you're ready.'
now he doesn't want to touch me or hug me or anything. i asked him what the other girls he is talking to have that i don't and he said he had more in common with them because they have children, like he does. he said 'i do love you as a friend, even like a sister...' which seriously freaked me out.
i never thought a GUY would go akward in these situations.
was the sex bad for him, and he is just lying? or did he think he could devlop some feelings and decided to back off? or did he just lose interest because of these other girls?
2006-11-12 16:11:33 · 11 answers · asked by lickablecake123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds really conflicted. I don't think it's you at all but his own undealt-with problems. Don't be frustrated with the other women he is pursuing because the ultimate problem isn't anything having to do with you, but the inhibitions he has. He's acting out some sort of situation and you're a pawn in that game. As difficult as it may be, I seriously suggest you do what you can to likewise see him as just a friend. He may come around then and start treating you as an emotional equal, but if not don't consider it any loss. He sounds like he has issues. That's what it sounds like to me, anyway; obviously you know more than any one of us.
2006-11-12 16:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my guess would be that he is interested in someone else, and probably sleeping with her. Either that or he is getting a weird feeling from you and doesnt think its ok to sleep together anymore. Sex will always ruin a friendship. It's never "just" sex. I would forget about the sexual part of the friendship, he's obviously weirded out by some part of it. Date someone who cares about you, not someone who just wants to sleep with you when no one else is around. If he's hanging out with other women and treating you different, I'm sure you can figure out why on your own hun.
2006-11-13 00:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Reese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes like that because he really only wanted you for sex.And that was it for him.But now it seems like he wants a relationship but with other woman that interest him more than sex.Just forget about him dont even be friends with benefits with nomore cuz you're the only one thats going to end up being hurt.*
2006-11-13 00:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad sex is almost impossible for a guy. He probably was just curious about you sexually, he satisfied that curiosity, and it's over for you two "that way". you can't "make" yourself become exciting/attractive to him anymore. you'll actually be less actractive by trying too hard. just back off and don't lose your friend.
But remember, once you go back to the "friend" arena, don't try to become physical again. that back-forth stuff will kill your friendship in a hurry.
2006-11-13 00:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by heywazzupdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the sex was good but he is not physically attracted to you. You need to move on or just keep him as a friend nothing more.
2006-11-13 00:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NOT THE SEX YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT. IF ALL HE WANTS IS TO BE FRIENDS THEN YOU EITHER HAVE TO HOLD BACK YOUR FEELINGS AND BE HIS FRIEND OR CUT TIES. IN MY OPINON YOU SHOULD NEVER BE FRIENDS WITH BENIFITS WITH YOUR FRIEND. IT USUALLY ENDS BAD. I CAN TELL JUST BY YOUR MESSAGE THAT YOU MIGHT NOT OF THOUGHT YOU WERE GETTING TO SERIOUS, BUT YOU WHERE AND YOU PROBABLY FREAKED HIM OUT. IF HE WAS MARRIED BEFORE AND GOT HURT BAD AND HE IS NOT READY TO BE IN THAT TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP.
2006-11-13 00:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he wanted was sex, and he would have done it with anyone, he doesn't like you in that way so he thinks by backing off he's sparing you the pain, he's a loser, dont bother with him.
2006-11-13 00:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Uninvited_Ideas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's ashamed and disappointed at how easy it was to get you into bed. Maybe he wants a girl who values herself and her body more. Maybe he thinks lowly of you now. Sorry. Some people get that way.
2006-11-13 00:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey stupid, why should he commit when he is getting all this sex for nothing? the guys a dog so except it, or forget him all together.
2006-11-13 00:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he is affaird, might be u become pergnent or he just wana fcuk u once
2006-11-13 00:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by harpreet0485 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋