Does anyone else feel like they get their butt kicked with parenting?

Question

I always hear parents gush about how joyfull and rewarding parenthood is... am I the only one who thinks it is the HARDEST THING EVER??? I mean, I love my daughter but WOW It kicks my butt every single day. am i alone in this? does anyone else feel overwhelmed by the responsibilites of parenthood? why doesn't anyone ever admit it?

Answer 1

Your not alone. People don't admit it because they think it might make them look weak. I have a 3year old girl. I am also a single mom and believe me I understand what your talking about. What makes it even harder today my daughter was having a fit and I told her to go to her room. She started crying I want my daddy,I want my daddy. She has never meet her daddy and probaby never will. I wanted to cry.She is only 3 but I know she understands.I really didn't even know what to say to her.

Answer 2

I know what you mean. You are so right, this is the hardest job you will ever do. I have three kids. They are 17, 15, and 12. I can tell you that as tired as you are, it only gets worse. I know that is no consolation, it's just the truth. Enjoy the physical exhaustion you have now, because later comes the mental exhaustion. Kids and babies are a piece of cake when you have teens and pre-teens! Of course you don't know that when you have the kids and babies! I wish I could come and help you! if you have anyone to help with the burden, please call them now! If not, there are moms clubs in most areas. Look on the internet for your local moms club. You honestly need help so that you can get that pedicure, facial or massage or whatever. Don't feel guilty. Mom is the absolute hardest job on the planet....hands down. Anyone who says it is not...isn't a mom. If you need help you let everyone you know, you need it. You will be a better parent for acknowledging your weaknesses and getting help. If I'm in your area...call me. I'm a wiz with the little ones. We need to stick together, you are raising the next generation, whew, what a job! Pat yourself on the back, stay in the ring, ok. You're doing a great job!

Answer 3

I always feel guilty because I consider having a job a blessing in disguise. I could never be a stay-at-home mom. I would hang myself within a week. I LOVE my daughter to pieces, but she can be an obnoxious little brat at times too! I have another one on the way and am a single parent (yet again or STILL) and I honestly don't know how I'm going to handle it. Sometimes I feel like dropping the kids off with my parents and getting in the car and driving until I run out of gas.

Of course, when I get there I would be broke and missing my kids. Can't live with 'em. Can't live without 'em.

Answer 4

absolutely. i feel the exact same way. i hate it when some moms make you think they are super moms and never have bad moments. my son went through 7 surgeries to remove a tumor on top but not connected to his spine. and on top of that i got a bomb dropped on me on his second surgery with a dagnosis of tuberous sclerosis complex in addition to the tumor. it took a year to complete all the surgeries and my son is turning 3 in january. my son is very hyper and stubborn and yes it kicks my butt everyday. but at the same time i am very hankful because my son is doing very well better than most with his condition. being a mother is very overwhelming and everyday i wonder if i am doing it right. i think being patient is my hardest thing and i constantly have to remind myself that he is a child and then i relax and i try to remember my childhood and how i acted and it makes things a lot easier.

Answer 5

I work my butt off. I set very high standards for myself. I do the very best I can to be the best mom I can be. But I'm no super mom and there is no such thing. We all feel like we're getting kicked in the butt at some point. Most mornings I wake up feeling great! I get up early to have time to myself before the kids wake up. At least half the time I'm feeling defeated about 30 minutes after they've gotten up. My youngest has the worst temper and will argue about anything! I try to plan for this but it never seems to work. I home school so we're on a schedule and this makes the day easier to manage. But there are days I get behind or the schedule goes off track. I'll find myself drowning in complete chaos and wondering how I'll make it through the next hour, let alone the rest of the day. By the time we sit down for dinner I'm ready to pass out! Not all days are like that but some of them are. There are days I don't bother to shower, or I have to skip a workout or I tell the kids to forget doing school work because I don't feel like it. There are even days I say to hell with dinner and feed the kids cereal. I'm not perfect. I work hard. I really do but that doesn't mean I'm perfect. You're right. This is the hardest thing ever. I agree. I've never worked so hard in my life.

A few years ago I used to belong to MOPS (mothers of preschoolers). I was running late and trying to get the kids ready. We were getting our shoes on and I was feeling rushed and had yelled at my oldest, who was only like 3 at the time. I was flustered and felt in a terrible mood as we arrived at MOPS. I walked in and dropped off my oldest in his daycare room and took the baby with me to the meeting hall. I sat down and offered a smile to the other women. I had been rushed and was in a foul mood but I'm not one to take it out on people and usually just having conversation with others chills me out. So, I sat down, smiled and started to relax. Then one of the other mothers says, "Amy has it so together. You always look so put together and the kids look so pefect. How do you do it?" I just burst into tears because the truth is I wasn't doing it!! I was worn out!! I hated that people were thinking I was pefect and had it all together when just minutes earlier we had been rushing and I resorted to yelling at my son. If those women has just seen me minutes earlier they'd know that I was far from perfect. But this served a very important lesson to me. I've since learned to chill out A LOT!! And I'm around a lot of other home school moms. Many of them are very conservative and come across as being great super moms who are too perfect for words. But I know better. I look at them and I KNOW that they get as flustered as the rest of us. I KNOW because people mistook me for the perfect super mom and I never was!

Don't let any other mom ever make you think less of yourself or that you aren't doing enough. We all do the best we can. We all have rough days. Anyone who says otherwise probably needs more help than the rest of us!! Ha!

Answer 6

U are so right and I feel the same way.. I have a 7month old son and it is so hard right now I imagine when he starts walking...I love my son and it is the BEST REWARD god has given me but in reality Parenthood is hard..

Answer 7

I am a mother to three children with Autism. I may never have grandchildren and my own children may always need to live with me. Two of my children are not potty trained. I can't tell you how many times I have wanted to run screaming away from my house. And then there are the times when my children cuddle with me and shower me with kisses.

Answer 8

you bet I do, Im a stay at home and I am missing out and giving up any pention I may have got working, having my own check or money, basically losing me in the parenting process, I actually dont like being a parent at all, I love my child to the death, but thats responsibilty for ya.

Answer 9

Hard, tough and unforgiving.

There are days i want to get inthe car and drive to Tiajuana.

How people can raise five or six kids is nothing short of amazing to me

Answer 10

yes I feel that way all the time but then their are those days were they make you proud of them. Its very hard and I work and my husband takes care of them and it gets old fast but hold on. let her know everyday you love her and thats the best for you both.