As a Christian, what if I really want to start a relationship with a non believer? (ash is cute!)?

Question

I know it says not to be yolked with unbelievers.......

but is it sin or just not reccomended? What if I met a girl with a great spirit and sense of Love who did not know Jesus??

All opinons are welcomed of all beliefs!

Thanks & have fun (hi ash!) :-)

No Ashley....Ash is a gal.

OF course I would not force my beliefs on her....

I'm saying what if I found someone and loved them the way they are??

There she is!!! Hi Ash!

"wink"

Answer 1

aww im blushing...Hi! =)

sheesh ppl, he's not asking for my hand in marriage...he just said im cute.

Answer 2

Youre denying the basic principle of Pauls argument that 2 things; 1 good and 1 evil do not work out well together! My dad made the fatal mistake of marrying an unbeliever and she has brought him nothing but grief and divorce.

How can a person have a great spirit if they deny Jesus? Is not the only spirit that is great the Holy Spirit which you can only get when saved? Witness to unbelievers, dont marry them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

As a Christian, you should want to not only follow God's commandments but his advice as well. He gives us this advice because he loves us and wants the best for us. If you persue this relationship you stand the chance of falling in love. If you fall in love, you stand the chance of getting married and possibly having children. If you are a devout Christian, and this scenario takes place, and she never changes her belief, does it not stand to reason that this could cause trouble in your relationship. You would want your children to know Jesus.....she may not want them to......and may feel very strongly about this matter. Do you want children to be in the middle of this? Don't ever date someone that you would not consider spending your life with.....and yes it would be better not to be unevenly yolked with someone. Take your Father's advice.....even if it's not exactly what is considered a sin.

Answer 4

It does say to not be yoked unequally with unbelievers, but it also says that the "wife can sanctify the husband or the husband can sanctify the wife." Meaning that it's ok to marry outside of the faith, for what God hath put together, no man can seperate. But there must be a "coming together" of the spirit of God that would dwell in such a relationship.

Answer 5

But if u are really a true Christian and practicing u will tell her about Jesus and make her also belive as u do, but having said that said that there are lots of women who are belivers and also have a great sprit , infact more then a non-beliver, why not find a girl who is also a beliver and also your type, the beliveing women are more spirtualty and on your'e wavelenght then non-believers, so if you was really practicing you wont fall for a non-believer because beliveing women are easy to communicate, understand , etc, speacially if you urself are a beliver.

Answer 6

No... your core beliefs are different, and over time those differences will come to the surface.
The Bible warns against it., and for good reason. If you are serious about your beliefs you won't have much in common.
I became a believer 10 years into my first marriage and it fell apart - she saw life as just having fun without much self-restraint and I wanted to follow God's ways.
Think carefully about it... your life will be so much more blessed with someone who shares your beliefs.

Answer 7

I don't know how to say this....what is unclear about "do not be unequally yoked"? What on earth would you have in common with someone who doesn't love Jesus??

God never says anything idly. Do you believe the bible is His word? If yes...please take it literally...it is meant for your protection. And also, I don't mean anything by this....but an unbeliever will usually pull a Christian away from their commitment to the Lord; not the other way around!

Answer 8

If you truly anchor yourself in your faith, it is nearly impossible to have a relationship with someone who is adamant about their lack of faith.

It may go okay in the beginning but if the relationship gets serious, then the questions about possible children, how they'll grow up, whether the non-believer will attend church, blah blah blah.

It doesn't work. I know. I've tried it. I was even tolerant of their belief but they were not tolerant of mine.

Answer 9

I'm Pagan, and my fiancé is...between religions (but comes from a Mormon family).

We respect each other's differences, we do not try to convince the other of anything, although we do discuss our varying opinions and views. It all works out.

We've been best friends since we me in July of '04, we started dating that October, became engaged in March of '05, and are set to be handfasted November 7th of '07.

Also, my mother was raised Roman Catholic, my father was raised Mormon, and although neither of them are practicing any longer, they've just recently celebrated their 30th anniversary and are still going strong.

The Creator(s) was(/were) the one(s) who gave you your heart in the first place - listen to it.

Answer 10

I see no reason why you two couldn't be friends.I wouldn't force my veiws on her ,but it wouldn't hurt to let her know were you stand on the matter.Who knows what God will do ? However marriage would be yolking yourself together and I would hold off on that until new light is given to you.

Answer 11

I believe tolerance is key. Each must show respect for the others beliefs.