my fiance and I got in a fight because i'm not doing good in school (which he's paying for) and i told him he needs to push me more and he said he's too busy to push me that i'm immature and then all of a sudden he was going off on me and now we are over how can i get him back? If he really loved me wouldn't he just push me to do better?
2006-11-12 16:01:42 · 14 answers · asked by MelC 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you are old enough to push yourself. It was your parents job to get you through to adult hood. You ex probably felt (justifiable so) that he was going to be your husband, not your dad. Maybe if you actually pushed yourself and he saw that you were doing it on your own he might reconsider. He's not looking to raise you
2006-11-12 16:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by heartache 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear i really dont think any one should push you to do better in school you have to be responsable for that if he was paying and you were failing i could understand why he would be up set
do you really want him back if so then you can both just forgive each other but the relationship should not be contigent on how well you do in school couples fight all the time but in the end you should both just understand each other there is no reason why he should go off he can disagree and just stop paying for school breaking up was harsh although i dont know what was said i dont know if you should try to get him back that should be a mutual thing i want to know why he gave up so easily sounds like something else is bothering him if he called you immature maybe it s othr behaviors that are bothering him but really i am suprised you thought it was his job to push you do you want your man to act like a father he isnt to raise you that should already been done he should encourage you but you should self motovate dear and maybe you display this behavior often do you accept responsibility often or do you tend to always point to what everyone else should be doing if this happens often that is probily why he is fusterated can you tell him you are aware of those behaviors now and are willing to self motovate if he doesnt accept this then the relationship may just have to expire 2 years is a long time and he may be just using this as an excuse
time will tell good wishes dear and im sorry you are feeling pain study hard and develope a strong sense of self and accountibality that is a very attractive attribute to have
2006-11-13 00:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by dancfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone needs to grow up a bit! Pretty nice of your bf to be paying for your schooling, your a lucky lady. Why do you feel he should be responsible for your behavior? Really? Think about it, doesn't that sound nuts? Sounds like you need your dad, not a bf! I think you need to take a good look at your life, and priorities in life. If YOU really loved him, you would NOT treat him with such selfishness. Good luck!
2006-11-13 00:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
das tough my frend
i mean, i would be mad if were paying for my girl to go to school and she wasnt taking it serious. I would get the impression that she was bein too nonchalant, or as your b/f said being immature.
but dat's not a reason to break up. especially after 2 years! nah! unless, your b/f was looking for a reason to break up with you. you mos definately have to work it out; talk with him (once your both cooled down). Nobody makes smart decisions when their mad. my girl and i have been through that so many times! break up and make up. And i could swear when im mad i don't want to be with her. (which is prolly how your b/f is). ya know? but in the end, when were cooled down, we can make rational decisions, and see where were coming from. don't give up, and don't despair youll be fine.
and as for your last question, I would imagine he would push you to do better in school. I would. especially if i was paying for it. but i dunno that's a tough question. without completly knowing your history or situation its tough to answer. I dunno what kind of person your b/f is. men think differently (for the most part). you two my have to talk. and draw some sense of it. In the mean time take care
2006-11-13 00:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by secret ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already have a lot of responsibility which one of them is making money and paying for your school.
You really have to understand working is not a small thing, and it is really tiring and needs a lot of concentrate.
In return, he really hoped you would study hard and show a dedication in your school.
Yes he really loves you, but you can't expect him to do everything, you really have to contribute to love by doing your part, which is to study.
I think he just got tired, and pissed off, maybe you need to talk to him.
Dont expect him to do everything, guys get irritated and tired as well , be more understanding.
Try talking to him, tell him that you would understand him more and willing to study harder to make him proud. Give and take in love, if he is sacrificing, you need to do some part in that by giving him what he wanted you to achieve.
2006-11-13 00:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anne H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can help motivating you but, but in the end its you who takes the test and passes not him, so to try and blame him by saying he needs to push you harder seems that you are trying to find an easy way out.
2006-11-13 00:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by eonetiller 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, if he's paying for it, I can see how he's just pissed off. You could get him back by offering to pay for it yourself. You sound like youre appearing to be a person who accepts the help but doesn't really appreciate it, and maybe he's very concerned about that.
2006-11-13 00:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nooooo, if he took the time to care for your education the least you can do is just go to school and push your own self. sorry but that was a sefish and immature thing to say and I would have been mad too. just let him know that you are sorry and you will try by any means neccessary I will do better and pass
2006-11-13 00:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by sngozig 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you push yourself? He realized that he was with a woman that had no drive to do anything on her own and wised up and got out...got bless him, I would buy him a beer if I knew him...
2006-11-13 00:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's not up to him to "push you." You need to push yourself.
He's decent enough to pay for your education and you actually expect him to do for you what you should want to do for yourself?
You need to grow up.
2006-11-13 00:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋