Okay..well I seeingthis guy for a few months, and one night, he caled for me to come over and hang out...so I ended up drinking alot, and I don't drink so my judgement was definetly not there...so the guy asks me what would I do if I got preganant by him...and I said it doens;t matter cause that;'s not going to happen, so when we got in the moment, again I was really drunk, I kept teeling him to wear a condom and he refused , and we had sex without a condom, I know it was mistake, I do know it was not responsible, and this is the only guy I have been with, so I'm not a hoe, but why would someone be so stupid that..what do you think?
2006-11-12 16:00:59 · 14 answers · asked by Laura the Capricorn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He raped you. I'm very sorry that happened to you. You were not able to give consent, because you were drunk. Sex without consent is rape. Read this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape
Go to the doctor or hospital, see if you can get the morning after pill to prevent pregnancy. If it's too late, then I hope you are not pregnant. Also get tested for STDs (aka STIs). You should go to the police and tell them what happened, that he raped you.
This is a VERY BAD MAN. Do not see him again!
I'm not saying that it is your fault, but in the future, do not allow yourself to be in that situation. If you want to get drunk, get drunk with your girlfriends, or at home. Don't get drunk at a guy's house, it's not safe.
I hope you are not pregnant, and I'm very sorry you were raped.
2006-11-14 04:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had an agenda and wanted one thing from you and he got it. How does this make you feel to know you were manipulated? Alcohol lowered your resistance and you are inexperienced. Give this some thought… and prepare for the future next time. Your worst nightmare is not pregnancy, it’s an STD. Herpes can be with you for a lifetime and AID’s can kill you. Don’t beat yourself up over this… just learn from the mistake and be prepared next time. Alcohol will always lower your resistance. It also sounds like you are young… how about waiting until you are older to engage in sexual relationships. You have an entire life ahead of you and there will be time for this later. It will even be more fun when you are older and less complicated as well. Hang in there!
2006-11-12 16:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys hate condoms. You were certainly dumb and so was he because of the pregnant thing and also STD. Just hope neither is the result of that one night. This guy should know better and you must make him aware of the condom thing if you plan on seeing him again.
2006-11-12 16:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser DUMP HIM if he didn't want to use protection that means he doesn't care about you at all. what I've learned is just not to drink If Im around guys, you always have th best of intentions but you are so much more likely to make a bad sexual decision when under the influence, just dont do it
2006-11-12 16:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, the first thing is to acceopt responisbility over your mistake, believe me that is how children are made outside of wedlock and in to a crazy world with parents who are not ready for them.
I don't need to rub it in that you used bad judgement to get yourself drunk and end up with irresponsible sex, that may not only result in pregancy but also AIDS.
I can only pray for you that you learnt your lesson. There are guys you dont want to hang out with especially if you are going on drinking spree, some one will get hurt and their destiny changed for the rest of their lives.
2006-11-12 16:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, you were telling him "no" and when he continues anyways that is sexual assault or rape. You are/ were not stupid. You told him no and he didn't listen. He pressed himself upon when you were intoxicated. You were vulnerable.
I think it would be a good idea to get tested for stds and to see if you are pregnant. If you find out that you are pregnant, you are the one that most decide what to do. An abortion, adoption, raising the child. You must listen to your heart. Do what feels right to you.
2006-11-12 16:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has gotten a girl knocked up before and he is making you give him the correct response of 'aborting' Just take birth control and save a check to planet parenthood. It can cost up to $900, or a life of painful regret. Choose the former, its a small price to pay...
2006-11-12 16:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
alcohol alters your state of mind, therefore, messing up your train of rational thinking. next time you decide to go over his house or any guy, for that matter, make your you set a limit for yourself and stick to it. try not to drink too heavily if you cant think straight....the biggest slip ups happen when alcohol is involved.
2006-11-12 16:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think this guy really wants you but i wouldnt invite you if there was drinking involving the girl i was seeing for a couple of months i wouldnt like to hurt her in any way
2006-11-12 16:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by brownies13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was pretty supid for that but he was most likely drunk too...
...ultimutely you were in control of the situation.
hope this helps =]
good luck girly!
2006-11-12 16:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋