My case of depression.?

Question

Im gonna keep writing to you guys for help, because you know what..you guys actually are a really big help to me and i feel more comfortable talkign to you guys than anyone else. So heres my question, if im always wondering what to say to people when there talking to me, and im thinking about the cool thing to say, or just something that wont make me look stupid, does this mean im shy, or havent discovered who i am yet..or does it mean that im depressed?...Heres some help to answer this...i dont have any real individual thoughts and i dont speak out loud at all or ever, or talk for long periods of time cuz i always feel stupid..i dont knwo what it is.but i feel like being me is uncool..or that im different from everyone else when i talk..like what i say is always stupid or something..please help..i keep on feeling really lost, and i feel aweful when i come home cuz i know im not who i want to be, and i always wish i could be someone else..whose normal

Answer 1

Well your obviously seriously lacking self-esteem, which means that you need to start building some. Here is a magic trick with socializing... 90% of the time, if you have complete confidence in yourself as you are saying something, people will simply see you as cool simply based on your attitude and the way that you carry yourself. But the biggest weapon of all is to not even worry about how others judge you so much.
Maybe you didnt say the coolest thing in comparison to the other hotshots around you, and maybe you dont have the latest athletic shoes or the newest video game, but it doesnt matter. Most of the men and women within our American society are heavily influenced by the latest fad or the newest trend. You have a champion within yourself, and you need to locate it. Find self confidence by discovering something that you are passionate about, and then challenge yourself daily. Let the other chumps follow a trend, you will follow your dreams.
When you find self-confidence, you really wont care what others think of you, and you will naturally attract people and convince them that you are a "cool" person. Good luck.

Answer 2

Dude, this is not normal. But it may not be you. It may be the people around you make you feel intimidated, which would be an easy way to explain if you feel stupid. Which you're probably not. If it's a case of feeling actually less intelligent than the people around you, it may just be the subject of conversation, in which case you can listen and learn and ask questions. If the people around you are worth talking to, they should freely answer you're questions and appreciate your interest.
Sounds like you could use some confidence mate, which is hard to come by once you've dug yourself a hole, as you and I both know. Work on it, don't let your life run the things you do, if you find that there are things in your life directly responsible for making you unhappy, then by all means work to change it for the better.

Answer 3

I honestly got really emotional reading this because i hate the thought of someone feeling lost and ashamed of themselves as the way you are feeling now, you are different but that is such a good thing, i don't know how i can convince you but you are special, please believe me, being different is sooo good because if we were to be all the same, what a boring life it would be. I myself are also very different because i am a mormon, i go to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and people mock our church every day, we are ridiculed and made fun of, but I try sooo hard to be strong, for i believe in God and i know that he's always there for me and that he'll help me survive in this world. For people today can be sooo harsh, and have a habit of kicking those who are down and making others feel useless. I am also very shy, and this could be part of the reason that you don't talk much to other people, you have such low self esteem in yourself and therefore you feel that you have nothing important to share. But everyone has something important to contribute in the world, yes, even you. I don't think that there is anything i can say to convince you that you are an important person, who deserves the world and a part to play in it. Please just take my word for it when i say to you, that you are special, that God loves you, that you have a special part to play in this world. You just need some sort of confidence booster so that you can start believing in yourself, please believe in yourself. I personally believe in you, i think that you can make it, that you will one day be so confident that you will feel on top of the world. I hope you don't mind me saying this, but all paths lead to God, don't hesitate to pray to him, he will comfort you and help you with all his might, mind and strength if of course you just let him in. I believe in you. God believes in you. Please believe in yourself. =)

Answer 4

You have a lack of self confidence. You are not depressed. You just need to be who you are, and if some people are not going to accept that then it's their problem. Do not try to be somebody you're not it will only make for a miserable life. Surround yourself with people who make you comfortable and who accept you for who you are.

Answer 5

ok...um....well u cant think like that...who cares if ppl think u sound stupid...you shouldnt be out to impress anyone else in the world except yourself, be you, and ppl will like that...try to pose as others and for sure, they wont like that...and so what, u may be shy...but i wouldnt say you are depressed...maybe just a bit insecure of yourself, but you cant be...dont be insecure of who you are...you said you are not who you want to be. then who is it you want to be??? why do you want to be like someone else? that makes no sense at all, and you know that!

you say you are different from everyone else when you talk...well, GOOD! you are supposed to be...that is YOU talking, not someone else...and if others think you are stupid, well, f*ck them...lol...really!!

let me tell you...you are normal, but you need to just be happy you are you...dont change to make others happy, just be you, ok!!!

-joel

Answer 6

Hi, don't worry. It's OK to wait till you have something to say. Nobody knows what cool is anyway, so just be kind, honest, and yourself, because that's the coolest thing anyone can really do.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are human. What humans need and want is happiness. With that everything works well. Otherwise misery loves company. See this webpage all about you and happiness. You will have more self confidence after reading it.

http://www.phifoundation.org/happiness.html

Answer 8

Try to relax the next time you talk to someone and just let your thoughts come out without analyzing yourself. You need to improve your self-confidence.

Answer 9

First of all, how old are you? This is a normal teenage thing.

If youre an adult i might say Social Anxiety Disorder

Answer 10

put yourself into situations where people really **** you off, but you can't really do anything but yell. come work with me. damn rednecks anyways.