My girlfriend totally ignores me in front of her friends/family?

Question

ONLY LOOKING FOR ANSWERS FROM WOMEN - I've been with a girl for a few months now. We have a fantastic time when we are alone. She is very affectionate and attentive when we are alone, but when we go out in public, she practically ignores me. Is there another explanation for this, other than "she's just not into public displays of affection"?

Answer 1

It depends on what you mean by 'ignore'...if she doesnt even hold your hand in public I'm guessing she's either embarassed by you or doesnt want to appear taken. Also depends on what you mean by 'public', the above suggestion would apply to wouldn't know them for a bar of soap public, but if you mean her family/friends maybe there is some weird 'still not quite over it' situation to do with her ex if she has one...either an issue for her or her family/friends. Or maybe she thinks that you dont want to display affection in public.
Too many maybe's in this situation. I would suggest raising it with her as something that is bothering you...talking it out is the only way.

Answer 2

Besides the obvious "shes not into pda" maybe she just doesnt want the word to see her as "tied down."

I know I have been in relationships before where, yah, it was nice having a bf but sometimes i wanted to go out and not have to be jumping his bones every 5 seconds to keep him interested.

Also, if shes ignoring you around her friends maybe its because she doesnt want to make them feel uncomfortable because theyre alone.

Try telling her how you feel (when youre alone, not in public) and ask her if she needs space.

Hope this helps =]

Answer 3

when i was with my ex, i subconsciously ignore him too - not really understanding why. first, my previous relationship was my first serious relationship. so getting used to having my exbf around my family/friends was hard to adjust (it did make me feel uncomfortable). but i also realized eventually that i didn't love him enough to "show him off" to my friends/family. there were things about my exbf that made me embarassed when we're around my f/f.. like he didn't understand my native language so during conversation, i felt i had to choose between him or "them." when the guy doesn't make an effort himself to know her f/f, she might feel pressured to "go along" with them instead of you.

sorry my thoughts are all over the place. hope it helped.

Answer 4

hey bou,at times it happens that v feel insecure for the one we luv socially wen we see him/her interacting politely wid others but actually this may not be true she dont need to be artificial wid u unlike wid others she has to be formal.both of u spends quality time together so if she wud publically be wid u ignoring others she might get lots of commennts from her frends,so chill out

Answer 5

maybe she isn't into public affection, maybe she would like to keep your relationship private. what happens between you both should stay between you both. do you get along with her family?? if not do you at leat try to?? if not maybe you should. girls are very family and friend orientated

Answer 6

ok i knokw u said u only want anwsers from women, but its respect from her family, and i also answered it because it was the only one i could anser from the ones i've checked so far

Answer 7

IT REALLY SOUND LIKE SHE ASHAMED OF YOU, AND THAT
NOT GOOD . YOU NEED TO BE WITH SOME THAT WILL
RESPECT YOU AND OUR FEELING, TIME TO MOVE ON
THERE SOMEONE THAT WILL APPRECIATE YOU. IF SHE
HAVE A PROBLEMS WITH YOU WITH HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS THEN SHE NOT THE GIRL FOR YOU.

Answer 8

maybe he family thinks otherwise of you.. or maybe she thinks that it's unappropriet to be as affectionate when around family/friends..... and i think she perhaps wants to keep her reputation as a proper girl.... maybe i dunno..... maybe it's about image for her... Kinda weird i wouldn't ignore my guy around friends and family... i would be less outgoing and kinda shy around family with my b/f but i wouldn't ignore him