I do feel like it though, I feel like she just wants to get rid of me and get rid of her "problem" (me).
2006-11-12 15:45:30 · 19 answers · asked by ifoundmy1truelovewithinyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's some pretty 'grown-up' feelings to be having & as well as going away to a "teen challenge". I feel you're taking this situation quite serious & from your words it seems your right in doing so. What I have to say is probably nothing you haven't heard b/f, but, I feel as if I need to give you my opinion. Now, since you are having deep feelings in regards to this, I think you need to step back & take a look @ the situation from a 3rd party's stand. You have to be honest with your Mother, but, more importantly, you MUST be honest with yourself. As you look in on your life, use the same "grown-up" attention to your circumstances as you have been your feelings. Yes, I know that is so hard to do...But, you gotta. As a Mother, I will admit my children can absolutely push me to my utmost limit, but, I would never even consider sending them away, UNLESS, now, UNLESS there were no other alternatives. If my boys need help, the kind that I just cannot give them, or maybe it's not that I can't give them help, it may be that I haven't a clue as to what they need, expect, or whatever else they want me to do or be, I would walk in your Mother's footsteps and do the same FOR my boys. Notice I said 'FOR' and not 'TO'. Once you can grasp that aspect of it, you'll be just fine. She did it for you, to help you & to help her. I truly feel that if you honestly & open heartedly look at your situation & your Mother, you'll see, maybe not right away, but, eventually you'll see that sending you away was probably one of the most devastating & traumatic things she had to do. But, that pain you both felt could, somewhere in the future, give you both the relationship you've always wanted...It'll all work out, somehow. I don't quite understand how beautiful life can be when our lives seem to be flipped upside down & then stepped on, but, look for the good to come. Now, my Dear, you have a long life ahead of you & you've already been through so much. Let this make you stronger. Let this give you understanding & show you truly what unconditional love is. Let go of the bitterness 'cause no Mother ever wants to hurt her child. Keep smilin'. There's someone here in Arkansas that's thinking about you right now. I'll say a few words for you to my gracious Father tonight.
2006-11-12 16:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
not quite sure what teen challenge is, but dont hate your mom for sending you there. Parents some times don't really know what to say, or how to handle some things, and this might be the only way she knows that will help you out. See it as a growing experience, honestly you should know your mom is trying to help you. She's not sending you away so you'll hate her. She loves you and wants to help you. If she didn't care, she wouldn't do anything at all.
Just try to be positive and do your best, and build up a relationship with your mom along the way. Make it a good experience for you both.
2006-11-12 15:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, hate is such a horrible word! Please keep in mind that your mom is probably trying to do what is best for you in the long run. Please keep this in mind when thinking about why!! Also, nothing is worse then looking back on something and realizing you didn't even try or put forth effort. So, go to the challange and try your hardest.
I was sent to many places as a rebel teenager and didn't talk to my parents for 5 years (divorced them when I was 16). During this time my mom found out she had cancer. It was only then that I decided that they were not to bad after all. I lost valuable time with my mom for being angry with her....sweety...time is precious...don't waste it on hard feelings!!
2006-11-12 15:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by AzMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like you've been putting your family through some changes this may very well be your moms way of trying to stop you from messing up your live.a lot of older people wish their mother had done something like that for them,because now they can't get any decent paying job due to the things they did when they were younger. some jobs do background checks they go all into your school record,police reports some even talk to neighbors depending on the type of position your try for.good luck,i remember you in my prayers tonight
2006-11-12 15:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, do hate her, for taking a Tough Mother role. When you become a mother you will love her more and more.
She is having difficult moments raising a rebellious child. Grow up and be the daughter you can be.
2006-11-12 16:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Hate is a strong statement ! She only wants what's best for You . And Maybe Teen challenge is going to be the best thing for your growth you might end up Thanking her.
2006-11-12 15:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tellie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ever hear the phrase "you'll thank me later"? If you got sent to Teen Challenge, one day you will live out this statement. Yeah, you've got a problem, and she knows it's out of her league to handle, so she's sending you somewhere where she knows it will get handled. Ask the question again after you've dried out.
2006-11-12 15:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wouldn't recommend you to hate you mother (nor anyone else). I Lost mine yesterday and now she's is no longer around. Love, and hug yours while you still can.
May the grace of the Lord be with you....
2006-11-12 15:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is teen challange i would like ta no cause if this is something ta help kids for diffrent things i would send my son there ta help him not get rid of him
2006-11-12 15:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,, if you are a lazy,, slothful, none productive part of a family, ,that onlly thinks that life is for video games and tv-movies and eating... then You need to get off you A S S... and become someone...
good luck
2006-11-12 15:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋