there is a girl who are seeing me now. but I'm not interested in her. But I can't say like that thing to her directly. I don't want to make her feel depressed.
2006-11-12 15:26:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't be responsible for her feelings . . just be clear and kind.
"I'm sure you are a nice person, but I don't feel the same way."
2006-11-12 15:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't just stay with her if you are not intrested in her.If you have no feeling for getting in a relationship with her then you need to tell her.Its better to tell her strait out like this tell her *It's not you it's me i really think your nice and charming but i really think we should see other people....and i don't want to make you sad and im sure your find someone better then me..and i hope we can be friends*<<<
2006-11-12 23:38:17
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Simply, write a letter. Tell her feelings, where you are right now and that this doesn't reflect on her one bit, but rather that it reflects on who you are and what you know you can't give to a person right now. Three pages at least because a woman wants to hear a lot about feelings....by the time she is done reading it she'll just want to be your friend.....believe me, it works because you spent the time to write a letter. good luck.
2006-11-12 23:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant please anyone else unless you are pleased yourself. this is a hard situation, if you are not interested take her to a quiet place were you and her are alone. Frst tell her all of her qualities and the good things about her then gradually tell her your intrest then simple say you see her as more of a close friend than actually someone you would want to date.
2006-11-12 23:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by CUTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be true to her. Take her out and tell that the relationship between both of you is up to friendship only nothing more and make her understand what is the persons character you are looking to be your betterhalf in future.
2006-11-12 23:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you don't want to hurt her. but you have to think, that the longer you "string her along" the harder she's going to take it. best thing for you to do is just to tell her NICELY that you value her friendship and companionship but don't see her as anything else but a friend. the rest will be up to her. if she want to remain your friend, then that's great. if not. then it's her loss. and you did what you had to do to try and make it as easy on her as you could.
good luck.
2006-11-12 23:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me a break! Let's be adult about this and be honest. You don't have to be mean to be honest. Just be nice and let her know that you want to see other people because you don't feel a connection with her.
2006-11-12 23:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by 10timesalady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look...just don't write her a letter, email, or call her. you need to be an adult and say, "look, i know we've gone out on a few dates, at first i thought we could make things work, but i'm just really thinking that it's a great idea to continue this...i just don't think we jive." obviously it's not going to make her feel good...
2006-11-12 23:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who can't avoid this. You have to tell. The $hittie$t thing you could do is stop taking her calls or something like that. Tell her, give her closure.
2006-11-12 23:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like her like a friend or a sister or cousin ?
Tell her you like her like that, and although it isn't quite how we would want it, it is easier to deal with if the other person at least likes us, even if they aren't in - love with us.
2006-11-12 23:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋