Can you help me understand why my boyfriend, who has professed his undying love for me, tells me I'm the most wonderful woman he's ever known, wants to spend the rest of his life with me, yes he has said this, and in moving forward with the relationship, we are now living together, has posted profiles on personal sites including yahoo personals, saying that he is living in another city, but looking for a serious relationship.
Is this an ego thing? It's not like he can go meet someone for coffee if he's a 1000 miles away from where he says he's living. HELP!!!
2006-11-12 15:21:49 · 23 answers · asked by boo h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really mistrust him, you could set up a fake profile for yourself and respond to his and see what happens..
or you could just ditch him..
2006-11-12 15:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bannab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a chick however I just asked my hubby and he says its an ego thing.....he just wants to feel like he still "has it" whatever that "it" is that attracted you to him! He says he posted he lives so far away because he never intends to meet them most likely! He probably just wants the extra attention/ego boost.........however as a woman I say be wary because he starts 1000 miles away, but what if he gets some weird confidence outta this and shortens his distance, and possibly meets someone!
2006-11-12 15:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably harmless and just playing around. I've made profiles saying I live elsewhere just to play around. Of course I didn't say I was looking for a serious relationship and my husband knew before hand (He does the same thing - it's fun to chat with new people and make up a whole new persona just for fun). Talk to him about it. He may not even realize it says he wants a serious relationship. He may be in it for the new internet buddies to chat with. Or he may be shifty. But the best way to find out is quietly talk with him. No accusations, no yelling. You ask a question, let him explain fully WITHOUT interrupting, and talk it out.
Every good relationship is based on trust and respect. You need to trust him until he really proves himself unworthy of that.
2006-11-12 15:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it could be one of two things. He actually could just be lifting his ego just to see if "he still has it"(thats what my current bf told me) or he could be establishing an internet relationship in hopes of someone coming to see him when visiting your state(that's what my ex did). If you decide to mention it to him, let him know you don't approve of it and see if he changes, if he doesn't and continue's to flirt then you have your answer. Or you could create a profile, initiate contact, and see where it goes(but be prepared to deal with whatever action he takes).
2006-11-12 15:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by mslilbit24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes cybersex, or he might be doing some gay stuff. Sounds shady, confront him. You might be naive and he is cheating on you, but that would really mess up the living situation. Confront him and get the truth. Regardless of what the first answer he gives, tell him you know he is lying and you will get the truth.
2006-11-12 15:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you stumble onto this little fact or did he tell you? I'd insist on the profiles being deleted...ask him how he'd react if the tables were turned! I'm not sure what his motives are, but I'd be suspicious!
2006-11-12 15:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is only doing it for fun. i dont think he would actually meet up with someone. but if he gets the chance he will flirt over the net. its exciting talkin and meeting people over the net. i sure you know what that feel like! anyway if what he is doin really bothers you, bring it up. not in an angry way. that will make him defensive. just mention it.
2006-11-12 15:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would be suprised, or maybe not, how many people are living this life...I wonder if the computer was never invented what would this world do...They live in a cyber space where everyone is beautiful..................
2006-11-12 15:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's an ego thing.... my boy friend has also said those exact words your guy has said... BUT he still has numbers of the girls who want to f**k him! and he brings it up when he feels like i'm cheating and stuff... but i know inside that he ain't gonna do nothin' on my back... it's his ego... he likes being oggled at while he forces me to gain weight so he can breath easier knowing that guys won't look so much at me. it's stupid... burn the EGO!!!
2006-11-12 15:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by AtsirkEiram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just doing it to experience... he is not going to go 1000 miles for coffee..... just put across him and joke and these days ppl talk alot of this stuff and maybe he just wants to exp it ... how ppl do it..... talk to him....
2006-11-12 15:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by stock2004dc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋