If a girl always calls you when she sad or upset and needs someone to talk to does it mean she likes you?

Question

There this girl Mell I really do love but I dont know if she still loves me or not. I had sex with her but ruin her friendship with another girl because the other girl like me and mell knew but didnt care...
So the night after we had sex she call me in the morning and said she didnt want a relationship right now because of problems with the family and past ex-boyfriends. I chill with her once and awhile now but before it was everyday. When she talks to me she says everything and has so much trust in me. But I dont get it she always calls me when she sad or depressed aboout something in the past or present looking for me to cheer her up. Does she still call me because she loves me and wants me to cheer her up or is something else Iam just missing? what kinda signs can I look for to find my answer?

Answer 1

Do you always see her when she calls saying she's sad,depressed - maybe you are too available for her with nothing asked of her in return. Is she seeing other guys?Maybe she doesn't see you as a boyfriend but is keeping you around for whenever her other relationships do not work out/ You need to be blunt and ask her and if she isn't ready yet then you either wait until????Whenever . Or you move on in the romance department and when she call and you aren't otherwise buy then see her. You need to control your life and not wait around for someone else-to see what they will do before you can know what to do.Ask her for your life shouldn't be on hold like this. If someone loves you they will want to be with you all the time and not just when they are sad or depressed( you are not a therapist)Being in love makes you want to share joys and laughter and have fun---doesn't sound like she does to me and you do not need to be used.

Answer 2

I think she still misses you. Find out if your relationship with Mell is strained because Mell misses her female friend. If so try to get the friendship between Mell and her friend resolved if you can.

However, there's also another possibility to this situation. She doesn't have her female friend anymore and is leaning more on you.

Either way, sometimes you just have to ask point blank, where did we go wrong? or where did I go wrong?

Answer 3

Frankly speaking, I'm not sure of her intentions. She seems to project the impression that she likes you and yet keeping a distance from you.

I'm guessing that she could be confused about her feelings for you as you mentioned that she told you about family and ex-es. However, she could be just needing someone who is able to comfort her, such as you. She lost a friend whom I doubt she treasured it since she did it with you. Not sure why, but I won't delve into it.

On the other hand, she must have put her friendship at stake by having sex with you. She could be liking you a lot but unsure of your feelings for her. Have you made your feelings known to her? She could have someone else who has made his feelings known to her and weighing her options.

It used to be everyday that both of you hang out together and now, it's once in a while. Since you are now looking out for such signs, maybe, just maybe she finds out that the feelings for you aren't that kind of like, but as a friend like.

Before you do anything, it's best to ask about her feelings in this relationship and what she's looking out for instead of just reading the signs. Tell her how you feel, such as confusion and your expectations for this relationship. She might just let you know about hers.

Good luck~

Answer 4

probally deep down she likes you as a friend that she could cry and talk to and that night she was so depressed she didnt really care about the other girl and she had sex with you cause she trusts you and she knows you are a caring guy and wouldnt hesitate to make her feel better, to me i think she sees you as the one guy that she could talk too and if there be need have sex with you are sort of like her comforter.

Answer 5

it sounds like she really trusts you and dont take advantage of it be glad that she feels comfortable enough to call you instead of one of her other friends. i was the same way with one of my guy friends and it helped to have a guys point of view because we all get basically the same answer from any other girl thats why girls need guy friends and it helps alot if you need to know that is going on with the whole relationship thing if you build a trust with her let her know that you can keep a secret and that you do care and it sounds like you do. so good luck!

Answer 6

She is using you. She wants your emotional support and nothing else, she feels upset and calls you because she knows you will 'care'. Trust me, as soon as this girl gets a boyfriend she won't call you again until it ends and she has no one to dump her unhappiness on. Seriously, break contact with her she is a user.

Answer 7

If a girl lets you see her all upset or not feeling pretty then she doesnt care how you see her. She knows you like her so she uses it to feel better about herself. Move on bra.
If she only calls when she needs something then she's using you.

Answer 8

Hmmm... us girls always need those few special friends to fall back on and their shoulder to cry on. You must be important to her one way or another. I don't know her, you do. So study her actions and you decide if thats her friend side or more.

Answer 9

She sounds like a shallow person to me, How do you know you love her? Sounds like it is all her way or no way...If you want to be her friend go ahead, but I would look elsewhere for love....you deserve better....

Answer 10

You're in the friend zone. You probably cemented that with your "performance". Now she just comes to you for emotional support.