First of all, I am highly inexperienced with relationships, and so this must be taken into consideration when proposing help to me. So here it is: I recently met this girl on campus. We share a class together 3 days per week. Additionally, we have gone out to lunch once a week for the past 3 months. I am certain that there is some connection here, though neither of us have brought it up, most likely due to both of us being rather shy in that respect. Regardless, we have discussed everything from our livestyles to our life-goals to our political standings. So ultimately, my question is this: how do I ask her if she wishes to be my girlfriend? Again, I do not know how to approach such a topic, and I believe an implicit manner would be most fitting. I thank you all in advance for your time.
2006-11-12 15:07:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask her out on a date...See how she reacts if you have been having lunch it shouldn't be such a shock...Then just start talking to her, woman don't want to have to guess all the time you either like her or not...It is best to get the whole thing out in the open..good luck
2006-11-12 15:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be in the 'friend zone' she thinks that you are a friend and nothing more, alot of shy guys make this mistake, and then flip out when the girl isnt into them. You sound a bit timid and girls dont like that, they like confident guys. Ask her out after a big test....say somthing like, all that studying was too much and I could sure use a beer, ask her if she wants to get one. If she agrees, go with the flow. Its just one beer, just make sure it isnt 10am, be smart. If she says she cant because she has somthing else going on, ask her for her number and that you will call her. Whatever you do, do not call her the next day, wait at least two days. Call her up and ask her out
2006-11-12 15:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DON'T ask her if she wishes to be your girlfriend at this point. That implies committed relationship, and you two have not yet begun to explore romance yet. You ask her out on a date. Take something you remember from your prior conversations about her... for example... "I remember you saying you liked Mozart. Well, there's a quartet giving a recital at the little theater on Saturday evening, I wonder if you'd like to hear it with me, and perhaps join me for coffee afterward?" If she says yes, it means that she is open to the idea of romance, and you have begun "dating," which is the appropriate social forum for exploring romance. Be prepared to pay for all activities on a date that you have invited her on. She may ask if you'd like her to share costs while on the date, you should say "oh no, it's my treat." If she insists, you can say "perhaps next time you'd like to treat?" This establishes a nice reciprocity that can, if it goes well, lead to a bf/gf relationship eventually.
There's usually some kissing before becoming boyfriend/girlfriend. In order to get to that, you have to engineer some romantic situations, preferably in the evening, that's why the dating. Then after some dates, and some smooches, if she continues to stay interested in you, you could ask her to be your girlfriend.
Good luck, Tiger!
2006-11-12 15:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her out on a real date. If she accepts after a couple of dates then just say would you like to be my girlfriend. Youll never know if you dont try! Good luck!!! Im sure your a great guy!
2006-11-12 15:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out for dinner and movie. If she holds your hand, your good. Kiss her goodnite but dont be to pushy. If that goes well then your golden. Ask her out and I am sure she will say yes!! Good luck. I bet she is just waiting for you to take the next step!!
2006-11-12 15:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by amandae78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her! Just make some moves - i.e. at least give her a kiss first! Things should progress naturally from there!
2006-11-12 15:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok why don't you ask her to a dinner or something and you could try holding her hand. if she pulls her hand away then she isn't interested in being your girlfriend. and if she holds your hand when the night is over give her a kiss goodnight.
2006-11-12 15:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to go out with you. somewhere in public first, then maybe
ask her to a movie or somewhere nice and then see how it goes from there.
2006-11-12 15:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freedom of speech is the birth right. Use it.
2006-11-12 15:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋