Ok so my boyfriend and I have been dating awhile about 8 months, we live together, we work together, we share everything. Until about 2 months ago we used to spend alot of time together. Recently our job has started taking alot of his time due to him becoming #1 in the company and he feels like he needs to spend all his time concentrating on work and furthering his career. While I do agree with this and I do support and push him am I asking too much of him to sacrifice one day a week to spend with me, have fun with me, make love to me, which to be honest has gotten to be a problem because of work. We work 6 days a week is it really too much that he give me our one day off instead of volunteering to work. Or should I really be willing to sacrfice time with each other for a whole year so he can succeed?
2006-11-12 14:59:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no its not asking too much...
but dont approach him like that. Tell him as a partner that you both want to agree to take some time off. Let him decide when is the best time and tell him that you'd like to go somewhere and do something together for once.
2006-11-12 15:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by JIMMY j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, if you put your life on hold for him you will regret it and blame him for making you happy. Obstacles like this one can be solved with compromise. My husband works 6 days a week for an average of 11.5 hours per day. It took a terrible strain on me at first but as time went on we both came up with ways in which we can plan our time wisely and use that time to do errands etc. and spend quality time together. The important thing is to sit down and make time for each other. if you don't put effort into this relationship - you'll be spending alot of time alone. I agree some sacrifices will need to be made however - don't let him get away without making a sacrifice either.
2006-11-12 15:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. How does he treat you when you ARE together? If he is still as sweet to you as he ever was then back off a little bit. Be thankful he is a go getter and trying to make a better life for the 2 of you. Try getting creative like meeting him on his lunch hour and getting it on in the car or when he is at home doing something special. ( A nightie, wine, dinner, soft music). Surely he can't work 24-7. Just make sure there is no other woman.
2006-11-12 15:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are two totally different creatures. He doesn't think he's neglecting you, he thinks he's doing what he needs to do in order to secure future time with you. Have you actually sat him down to talk about this or just in passing? If you haven't, write him a letter. That tends to get through to guys better than talking. And don't be negative at all, just say that you miss him.
2006-11-12 15:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is success without love? If you don't water a plant it dies. Anyone who wants to work seven days a week needs a time out to examine what the objectives truly are and if they are worth it. You know what is needed.
2006-11-12 15:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think one day a week is asking to much. Talk to him.. Try making plans-nothing major in case he won't/can't go through with it- Say go ou to breakfast together or plan an out of town event for the two of you no work no hassels just a nice day away for the two of you..
2006-11-12 15:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rain32 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One day is not too much to ask. If he doesn't realize that it's detrimental to your relationship, then his priorities are out of whack. It'd be one thing if he were required to work 7 days a week, but to volunteer means he's not regarding you as highly as he should.
2006-11-12 15:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by grey77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not asking too much @ all. i lived with my ex boyfriend and both of us working got in the way of a lot of our time together. we tried to squeeze in time and plan going out to dinner, movies, or just sitting @ home watching a movie together. You both should get together and plan stuff.
2006-11-12 15:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you started living together before you found out if you were truly compatible. Now you've learned that his life is more important that his relationship.
2006-11-12 15:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thihnk your asking too much I mean women have needs too and you need to spend time with your man.
2006-11-12 15:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by froggy_dimebag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋