My bf wants to break up with me right now. He says he probably doesn't love me anymore and he can't do this anymore. But he wants to stay friends. When i said it's highly unlikely, he said eventually we'll be friends. I dont know what to do. Should i be friends with him? B/c i really wanna get back with him. I dont know why he wants to be friends and i dont know whether staying friends with him or not contact him at all(thus not friends) is the right way to get him back in the future? Thanks for answering!
2006-11-12 14:53:14 · 24 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He "probably" doesn't love you anymore?
Huh. I haven't heard it put that way...
Anyway, they say that so you *think* there is still hope. Like, "Oh, well, that means we will still hang out and I'll see him and we'll fall in love again...". No.
It is easier than saying he flat out doesn't like you.
2006-11-12 14:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Norah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually best to just make a clean break and cut off contact, especially when one person wants to stay together and the other does not. Give it time, let go of the idea of getting back together and get over him... after you heal & move on it is possible to become friends again, but it's very difficult & painful when you still have those feelings for him. Sorry, just take care of yourself right now.
2006-11-12 14:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to be friends for a few reasons: 1) He may not want to date you but does enjoy your company, 2) He might want to keep the door open in case he realizes he made a mistake, 3) He's trying not to seem like a jerk and doesn't really mean it.
I'd say that you should tell him that you could see possibly being friends someday but that it would be best to have time apart. It's really tough to be friends with someone if you still want him as your bf. Then, imagine how you'd feel if you were friends and found out he moved on. It would feel like getting broken up with again. He's trying not to lead you on and you shouldn't lead yourself on either. Maybe try being his friend in 3-6 months or after you've gone on a few dates with other guys.
2006-11-12 14:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by rhnotyouraverage1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "friend's" line is a false olive branch, I would take it to mean he wanted to smooth over the break up so you don't argue as much with him while he does it. I mean this in only a helpful way and it sounds tough, but have some respect for yourself. You can do better than someone who will break your heart. Your feelings wil pass, and you'll live. Get out, meet new people, forget about him. If he really loved you, he would have discussed his feelings with you first, not bluntly said it. Just a guy's take on it.
2006-11-12 16:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Che G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k so I can't really give you advice because every couples situation is different, but I went through that,I was with him for 2 1/2 years and then we broke up. and we weren't friends for a long time, we didn't hate each other but we weren't friends, and we both just kinda moved on. and then like 4 months later he started callin me and all this stuff. We both made it clear that we didn't want to be with each other, but now we are WAY good friends. We talk all the time, its great. Come to find out we're just better friends than we were bf/gf. Hope I helped a little. Good Luck!
2006-11-12 14:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that guys aren't like us girls. They are more willing to forgive and forget. Unless he has done something really bad to you or been a jerk I'd still be his friend. Take it as a compliment. What he is saying is I don't think I love you but I respect you I like talking to you. It's actually a really mature thing for a guy to say. Instead of just saying its over I never want to talk to you again he is saying you're cool but I just don't feel that way for you. If you think he is an honest guy you should believe him and be friends. If he is sneaky and a woman user then by all means never talk to him again!
2006-11-12 15:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can actually tell you that he "probably doesn't love," then he doesn't know love. That means that right now you are just friends, whether you break up or not.
2006-11-12 14:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun the exact thing happened to myself 3 weeks ago. Trust me it will hurt like hell, but the best thing to do is when you guys end things don't turn back. They can be crewl at the worst of times, but it sounds to me like this guy isn't going to want you seriously in the future. Do it for you and don't be friends. Good luck :)
2006-11-12 15:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jodsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is just scared of commitment ,he found someone else,or hes just being a ******** and won't knows what hes got until its gone.So to you Sweetie don't even be a bit of mad because by the time he tries and decides that he wants you back trust me honey I bet you would have moved on to a new relationship.
2006-11-12 15:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Big Momma KI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He "probably" doesnt love you anymore? Sounds kinda like he doesnt really know what love is. You either love someone or you dont. I say if he doesnt want to be with you not chances are he wont later. Just let him go.
2006-11-12 15:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to stay friends so there's always the possibility of having sex again or he could be a really sensitive guy that wants to keep you in his life because you might be an incredible girl. Stay his friend, but don't let him in and out of your bed.
2006-11-12 14:57:48 · answer #11 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋