in the last week i met a girl who i really like. i want to be with her. she says she isn't sure what she feels bc she doesn't know me well enough and wants to develop a friendship with me so she can decide. I told her she has all the time she needs. I am afraid of being hurt. I have to keep my heart somewhat close to her as a girlfriend but open to her as a friend, so i don't get hurt. she is really unique and i want her in my life.
2006-11-12 14:50:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax!! it's going to be just fine. Just understand that you are acting on impulse and she is acting more on her feelings. You say you want her in your life... yes that may be true,,,, BUT you really don't know her. She may have a million things that annoy the hell out of you that you are completely unaware of . It's only been a week. There are people who are married 20 years to people who have murdered, molested, cheated, lied, what have you that the other person NEVER knew about. My point is just relax, you're not going to die without her and you can open up. Just because someone rejects you (if she does) DOES NOT mean you are unworthy, It just means that person didn't feel a connection to you. so! it happens to millions. Animals get rejected all the time!!! Someone you click with may not click with you and that's okay! you're still you and they are still them! it's all good. just chill and see what happens.
Most young people are looking for validation and when you like someone, it's validation when they like you back.
2006-11-12 14:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that she doesn't want to get hurt either? I think that the best relationships are built on friendships. You need to be yourself around her. You cannot act awkward b/c that is only going to push her away. If you be yourself & act confident then she is going to enjoy hanging around you. If she doesn't then that's her loss.
Point of the story: I met this guy last year & our friendship was purely social. He liked me & I wasn't sure how I felt b/c he was my friend and I didn't want to ruin the friendship. Now, you just met this girl and she knows you like her. Things are different. You're actually lucky b/c now she will never be able to look at you as just a friend. Your telling her you are interested is now in the back of her mind...so she will probably find herself thinking, "can i like this guy"
every now and then.
Be yourself. DONT BE CLINGY, but DONT ignore her. Treat her like you would treat a good friend and whatever you do, DON'T blatently hook up with other girls in front of her. You want to treat girls with respect b/c whatever you do with another girl will reflect how you will treat her. Doesn't matter if you don't care about the other girl. Girls want to be respected. I know, sucks for you.....but if you really like her then it will be worth it. If it doesn't work out then at least you know you tried.
2006-11-12 22:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by nicoleanig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now your are infacuated. the feelings you are feeling are not real, not yet. so as not to get your feelings hurt and see if you really like her, just be friends for a little while and she how you feel about her in 6 months. if you feel the same way you do now, then those feelings are real. if you don't, then you know that they were not real. but most importantly take your time. time is the answer to all questions words can not.
2006-11-12 22:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No pressure, just try to hang out & get to know each other. You already know YOU are interested, so give her a chance to know who you are. Just be yourself and if you are right for each other, it will develop over time.
2006-11-12 23:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slow. Get to know each other as friends. (This may take a while.) Let her tell you in her own time what she feels for you; don't keep asking about it. Good luck.
2006-11-12 23:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take you time and let the relationship develop in it's own time. When you rush it there's more chance of getting hurt.
I think your friend is smart....just have fun and relax.
2006-11-12 22:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and sincere to the girl to win her heart.
2006-11-12 22:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just have to know each other better though time and earn trust towards each other.
Tips:
http://www.freewebs.com/infosource100/love1.html
2006-11-12 23:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and don't pressure her.
2006-11-12 22:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋