I tried, but i can't help it....?

Question

It's not that i'm not trying, my confidence got crushed and crushed every day, i think i look ok, but i never heard any one called me cute or anything but i heard that some girls think i'm ugly, i'm a nice guy, and i had a crush on like every pretty girl in the school, there was once, i asked this girl out and i got rejected, but i recovered really quickly, when i tried to start a conversation with a girl, they end up losing interested...........idk if i wanna ask any one out any more because i know it will be a "no", am i just not cool enough? Any tips for me of what to do? o yeh, thanks for any one spend their little time reading this....

Answer 1

Hey, I'm a girl, yet I can totally relate. My self confidense is always going up and down, and guys I like gived me mixed messeges, and people have told me I should go into modeling! So it has nothing to do with how you look. I would just try to build up your self confidence by focusing on all your sweet and attractive qualities. Eating right and exercising will also help you look and feel better about yourself.
If you are still in mid, or high school, then just be patient. Those are such awkward years, i graduated two years ago, believe me, it gets better after high school. Girls are more mature. Don't try to go after conceited b****s. They don't deserve you. Just be yourself and try to just build up a friendship with a girl that you want to get to know better.
She may start to want something more once she realizes how cool you really are. Some of my biggest crushes in high school were on average guys who were kind of dorky, but who were just really sweet and funny, and natural around me.

Answer 2

Well I think confidence is what's supposed to make someone attractive. Like you said, it's hard but instead of thinking about the pretty girls try getting to know some of your girl-friends better. That's how the best relationships happen. If you're already good friends. Also if you just focus on something else I bet something will happen... Sometimes if you're just trying to find a gf/bf all the time you can come across as needy. Be yourself and let them come to you. Oh and also, "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission."

Answer 3

if they get bored while you're talking to them, they're definitely not for you. And if they reject you, then they are jerk-losers and they don't deserve you anyway. Don't go asking girls out left and right because then word will spread that you are desperate and people might start avoiding you. But it's okay to ask girls out... I understand it must be frustrating, but you just have to keep in mind that if a girl rejects you she's not worth it anyway. Or, maybe you need to change your style a little bit. Try cutting your hair or wearing different clothes, and if your hygeine is bad you might be considered "untouchable." so make sure you shower and wash your face a lot, and DEFINITELY wear deoderant or you could be avoided like the plague! good luck, and don't worry about it... I'm sure you'll find the right girl for you, it just takes time.

Answer 4

look at the other guys and see what they have that you don't!. Try to dress neat and clean. Brush teeth and fresh breath is important when a guy talks to me. Try to see if you might have the same interest that a girl you like or find out what they like and talk about it. You could try out for sports cause girls are big on sport dudes.
Invite a girl to like a movie and ask what she likes or dislikes. One day you are sure to hit on with the right chick. You are probably still really young would be my guess! Oh yeah and wear some colonge but not to strong.

Answer 5

One try learning to like yourself and get a girl to be your friend first of all. Then when girl see that you can get along with a girl then you will have them line up. Also smile more. Stop being a geek , cut out answering all the question in school. Smile and just say hi without trying hard and thing will turn around.

Answer 6

dude I sorry that sounds really bad, I had the same or a similiar problem in school,as far as your confidence goes all I can say is never give up there is always that one that will say yes. I did not get a date with a girlfriend till I was a senior in high school. To quote a song "EVERYBODY STRIKES OUT NINE TIMES OUT OF TEN" Good luck !!!
hope this will help you!

Answer 7

just be your self ! don't try to be somebody you're not! Maybe your personality is a little rough or edgy ? Maybe you need to change that a little . To your looks i can't say much since i don't know what you look like . But try to be nice dressed ,not sloppy and make sure the hygiene is taken care of too , you know . Then with a little luck Cupid will come along for you too!

Good luck

Answer 8

oh honey, just be yourself!
Don't worry about being cool or ANYTHING like that.
because if you're yourself, the person who loves you for who you are will be out there.
People used to bring me down all the time. it's really just because they're jealous of your self confidence or don't have enough of their own.
They are BENEATH YOU. Trample them. In soccer shoes.
And as for the dating scene, just chill for a while. You don't NEED to have a girlfriend!
Start liking girls for who they are, and not how pretty they are. That's true love right there.

Answer 9

Thank your stars that they have said "No" because they are very shallow girls. And you don't want that type. They won't make you happy. Are there any girls that are not that pretty and maybe feel they same way about boys as you do girls? It is what is inside that counts. I know it sounds corny, but when girls become more mature they will care about what's inside because that is what make a lasting relationship.

Answer 10

keep trying, maybe get to find a girl that doesn't have to be the hottest girl around but one that has a nice personality, remember that if you ever decide to marry a girl and spend the rest of your life with her it surely better not be over her lookks because when you get old looks fade and skin starts to sag, you better like a person for who they are, not what they can do for you or how they look