me and my girlfriend have been having sex for a month or so now, we lost our virginity to each other. I am great at forplay and all that stuff, i can get her off a lot like that and she loves it that way, but its hard to get her off when we actually have sex. I dont have a small...tool and i know what im doing and how to work it but she says it feels good but its not as good as when i fingure her. So we tried having sex befor i fingured her and she says it felt a lot better, ladies do u think that when i do my fingures first i stretch her women part out so much before i go "in" there that that it makes it hard for her to get off or what. Can i get some info on this theory or some tips.
2006-11-12 14:37:42 · 8 answers · asked by armorefelix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI... my gf has never, and i mean never given herself an orgasm so its hard to find out what feels good to her if she herself dosent know
2006-11-12 14:39:31 · update #1
Yeah, I think that's a good theory. She probably loves the stretching feeling of you filling her, which is why when you finger her before-hand she's already used to you inside her.
2006-11-12 14:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tam T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't beat yourself up about it. It's difficult for a lot of women to get off during sex, because there's no contact with her clit, and it's unlikely that your member comes into contact with her G-spot (unless it REALLY curves upward....jk).
Your best bet is to find a position where you can stimulate her clit (or allow her to do so) during sex, such as a variant of missionary where you're more on your knees than leaned against her.
Doggy-style seems to bring more g-spot contact, but personally, the lack of intimacy with this position is kind of a bummer.
Hope that helps! :)
2006-11-12 22:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My g/f was the same way. Let the sex be about YOU, not her then. If you can't get her off, then no one can.
Another thing to do is try some positions, those seemed to work for me sometimes, and she liked it.
2006-11-12 22:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it is not what other women think about what feels good, its what your gf thinks. women vary sexually as they do personally, so the most you are going to get out of this is other womens opinions on what they like done. you can try some of what they say, but you need to ask your gf that question and get her answer. what i suggest you have her do is masterbate. yes i said it. tell her to masterbate. tell her to get to know her self, know what she likes and how to pleasure her self so she can pass it on to you and you can please her. there is nothing wrong with masterbating. i think every guy and girl should do it so they know what they like. the problem with sex is that people don't know what they really like and what really gets them off so it makes it hard for their partner to please them because they can't tell their partner what they like. so tell her to masterbate and then get back at you with what she likes.
2006-11-12 22:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a common problem. It's all about finding the right position.
2006-11-12 22:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to research the female anatomy and find the answer to the missing button you both have seemed to skip over........
2006-11-12 22:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is young and very sensitive down there and it hurts some and, .. well you get the picture dontcha ?
2006-11-12 22:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much of a good thing is too much try something else
2006-11-12 22:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by giggi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋