... What is the shortest way of saying that "I dont want any gifts but donations accept for our honeymoon". Since this is going to be our 2nd wedding so, we dont need any downys.
2006-11-12 14:29:59 · 23 answers · asked by ஐ♥Mom of 5♥ஐ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am not being rude or trying to be rude but only trying to figure what is the best to say. Most of the answers werent kind or sensitive. THe fact is that we never live together for the kids sake. We have our own stuff that we dont need more stuff. BESIDES that... ppl who came to his and my wedding wont be the same ppl who plan to come to ours this time. My finiace is foriegn, alright! Just to point that out.
2006-11-13 09:52:15 · update #1
Unfortunately, there is absolutely no polite or acceptable way of asking for money for a wedding gift!
If breaking eitquette doesn't bother you, just say, "Cash gifts only." That ought to do it.
2006-11-12 14:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is very rude, and not accepted, to ask for monetary gifts on a wedding invite. If your guests are aware that this is your second wedding, they probably get the clue that you won't need a new toaster. However, you CAN say "No gifts, please"...be prepared for some people to not bring you anything, but there will be a lot who choose to give money instead of coming empty-handed.
2006-11-13 15:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To avoid looking "tacky" by asking for money (as most people are saying), I would suggest having a wedding web site to do the deed for you.
Generally, it is consider a wedding faux pas and poor ettiquette to include registry information in an invitation. Wedding experts say that is equates the importance of the guest with the gift.
So, register for free to have a personal wedding web site on www.weddingchannel.com and include the url in the invitation (ex: Please learn more about our wedding at http://sarahandmike.weddings.com).
In addition to giving directions, hotel accomodations, and information on you as a couple, the web site has a section about where the couple is registered at. This is the perfect opprotunity to let guests know you would like to go on a nice honeymoon in leui of receiving the tradition gifts.
Telling people to give donations can be done....it just must be done with a great amount of tact.
2006-11-12 23:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Actually they have registries for honeymoons now. They show them in advertisements in bridal magazines. People can give a money amount for the honeymoon in general, or pick specific things to pay for like dinner.
I think that since people are going to feel obligated to get you something for your wedding anyway, it might as well be something you need or want. Don't let people tell you it is tacky.
Here is even a guide on how to ask for a honeymoon as a wedding gift. http://www.idoweddingregistry.com/tips/42070.php
It explains the honeymoon registry thing really well.
Try searching the web for "honeymoon registry," to find one that's right for you
Here are a few websites to give you an idea of what it's all about
http://www.thebigday.com/
http://www.backroads.com/trip_prep/honeymoon/
2006-11-12 22:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by TexasGirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS. are you twelve or something? if it's your second weddings, my guess is that one of you--or both of you already have stuff for your house---which you probably lived together in to begin with. i understand celebrating your marriage with the people you love, but you're an adult...i bet the people you've invited to this wedding are the same people who came to your previous wedding...and bought you gifts then. chances are, people will realize, 'oh wow, they've been married before' and not get you any gifts--just checks or cash or gift cards anyway...but irregardless of WHAT they decide to give you, it's kind of bad etiquite to even have a "big" wedding (meaning people other than your parents, grandparents, brothers or sisters, and like your 5 closest friends) if it's your second. but if you're already planning the invitations, you've already planned the guest list...but it's incredibly rude and tasteless to write..."just bring us some cash bitches."
2006-11-12 23:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
In my homeland, it is so usual to ask a cash instead of flowers or things (also applied for the first time wedding). Usually they write it on the wedding invitation: "With respect, we would be grateful if the gift is not flower or things." Okay, that's not a good English. Lately, it's also so common to draw it on the invitation: three small boxes, one with flower picture, another with a present box, and the third one with Dollar sign, the first and second boxes have that cross (x) sign.
But, here, in Germany (as I also think applied in USA), it is so not common to ask such of things. At least, I don't have it on our wedding invitation. ;-)
Good luck!
2006-11-13 08:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't ask for gifts or money for your wedding. The purpose of your reception is to have your friends and family share in the joy of your union.
Sorry, but there just any polite way to ask for money or gifts.
2006-11-14 23:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to say that. It is tacky and rude. If you don't need any gifts, say so - but don't ask for money. If you can't afford a honeymoon, don't go on one now.
2006-11-13 05:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Presuming you are only inviting closest friends, tell them on a one on one basis. If you were one of my friends, that would be a relief! Why? because I would be asking all your other friends what we can pool our monies on for a gift to buy for you. That request is reasonable and practical.
If only everyone was like that...
Opps I have to add a postscript. That might not work on relatives. If grandAunt bess will insist on giving you her Waterfords, accept graciously. Do what you wanted only among your nearest and dearest friends.
2006-11-12 22:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's very bad taste to ask for money. You can request "no gifts;" and perhaps let it be known to a few friends that you could use some cash, and hope they'll spread the word.
2006-11-12 22:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋