My mother hasn't talked to me in six months. I'm 37 and I feel she has disowned me...and my son who is 13..

Question

We have become astranged for what ever reason, just wondering if anyone else has this sort of problem with their mother.
I just don't understand how a Mom can ignore her kid and Grandson for no good reason.....

Answer 1

I'm 37 also and i have 3 brothers and my mom left us all when we were little. My dad raised us all and he was only 27 years old. My mother re-married and never had any more childen and only lives about 15 minutes from where i live. She cares nothing about me and my brothers or her grandchildren. I will never understand how she can't care because I have 2 children of my own that i would die for. I love my kids more than anything. My mom has missed out on all of her childrens lives. All i can say is she will answer to a higher power some day. I'm sorry your asking a question about your mom and since me and you are the same age it reminded me of my mom, anyway i really don't know what to tell you. Has your mom always been kind of distant? You need to call her and find out why she is treating you this way and your son. This will drive you crazy so I really suggest you call her. I wish you all the best. She's the one who is missing out. Hugs to you.

Answer 2

Here's the thing - you and your son need supportive, loving relationships and you're not gonna get it (at least not now) from your Mom. It's time to widen the net. Mom appears to have some problems that she's not ready to resolve, leaving you and your son out in the cold. Time to build a family support network of your own choosing - a circle of friends you're close to, both of you, that take the sting out of Mom's neglect. The holidays are coming - why not reach out to friends and throw your own "family" Thanksgiving with dinner, board games, etc.?

The big thing is that your son is watching how you handle this. If you just sit in one place, staring out into the distance, watching for your Mom, he'll learn that's what you do when someone cuts you out - you just sit there, waiting, mourning. If you take steps to make your holidays with your son special (the more activities the better - it's hard to notice the hole someone else leaves behind if you're busy). Volunteer (the Salvation Army needs volunteers to help with toy and food giveaways), take walks to look at Christmas lights, etc.

You'll end up feeling that your Mom's absence is her loss, not yours, or your son's. Good luck!

Answer 3

Send her a card and let her know how much you love her and that you really miss her and her grandson does too. Sign it with love and both of your names, each have printed their own name and send it. :) Follow up in about a week or two. If she doesn't respond after putting the ball in her court, then you might consider going to her and finding out what's going on. You might not know what's happening in her life. It seems strange that she would not talk to you for no aparent reason on your end. Be sure not to jump to conclusions until you really know. But maybe that card is a good starter to get in touch with her.

Answer 4

Yes. I have been through what you are going through. When I was 24 my parents disowned me. they did not believe in my life style. All I can tell you is that you have you son and if your mom does not what to have anything to do with you that is OK. There is one thing you don't have to worry about and that is your son missing out on love because you have enough for him. My kids have not ask about my mom in 6 months because I try not to talk about her. One day your mom will come around. Just hope that her grandson will still want to see her. Just pray about it OK.

Answer 5

You are saying that your Mother has not talked to you or seen her grandson for six mos? If you and your mother had a fight for whatever reason I would suggest that you make the first move, and tell her that if you did something to offend her that you hope she would forgive you for it, do it for your son's sake if not for yours, there has to be some love for one another, what kind of example are you showing to your son, is this the way you want him to treat you when he is an adult. Remember children learn what they live, please make on effort to reconcile with your mother as soon as possible. I am a mother, and I could never stay angry with one of my own children,or my grand kids. My daughters always call me to tell me that they love me, and they always tell their kids to call me when they get home from school. I hope that your problem with your mother would be solved pretty soon. May God bless you and your son. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Your Mom is having problems because you're right mothers don't break off from their children without a reason.

Why don't you write your Mom a letter and tell her how you feel and how you miss her being in your life.

It'll make you feel better to get it out and maybe it'll break the ice and start getting your family back together....good luck.

Answer 7

Well Not really an anser here but i am 37 and havnt talked to my father in a year so i guess look at it like this youre not alone in the family dis-ownment tree, if you find out the real reason please let me know

Answer 8

there has to be something going on here, has this happened before, maybe you should talk to her doctor, she could be depressed, I'm the mother of 3 daughters and grandmother of one I can't imagine not talking to them for even a day.

Answer 9

that is so sad but honestly i dont feel you have shared enough information to make a judgement are give advice but you can tell your hurt by this so make the first move call her tell her how you feel write a letter be the bigger person

Answer 10

did something happen between you two?

was there a conflict? there needs to be more information