What to do about my fiance's father..?

Question

Ive been with my fiance for 4 yrs neally,been engaged for about 4 months,he's lebonese,and his father wants him 2 marry his own kind,i used to be welcomed to their house until his father relized he wasnt ever going to leave me,now he's been dis-owned only by his father,his mum loves me,i just cannot go to the house while hes home,they moved from lebanon 30 yrs ago 2 start a family here in australia,so why the hell would'nt they let him marry an aussie girl,its good enough for them to live here,but not marry,what should i do about this,ill never stop loving my man,but its so hard,im very family oriantated,but cant be close to his family,all his5 sisters love me,its just his dad,please need some opinions.trying to keep it real,thanks guys & girls,

Answer 1

Your fiances father is a traditionalist everyone wants happy extended families but the truth is they are truly a rare blessing. True love with overcome any hurdle you are in fact marrying your fiance and not his father as years go by he may acustom to it. You aren't the first person to marry into a family that has migrated to aus. and battled the fathers ideals. If you love each other and the rest of the family loves you, you are more priveliged than you are aware.

Answer 2

If you marry you and hubby will have to accept that his daddy is not going to be part of the picture when you take those family photos. Dad is a bit slow on the uptake though if you have been dating four years. What did he think was going to happen after a four year engagement. Wonder if future hubby and daddy made a pact that he would feign disapproval so that you will fly away not to be seen on another day.
Hubby's choice is you or his dad. Your choice is unhappy if you marry (extended family will blame you) and in limbo if you don't. This matter should have been dealt with a long time ago - daddy must have sent some signals. At least mom had to know but mother's just want grandbabies and they overlook all. Good luck.

Then again, Jordanred (above) has a good view of this also.

Answer 3

You are marrying the son not the father!!
If you are having doubts you must not love the guy very much saying that you are family orientated
he should be more important than family so to speak!!
you have a lot on your side from his family as he has 5 sisters who like you & his Mum as well so you are lucky because its a nice big family

Answer 4

This type of thing happens all the time. First off respect the father and his dedication to culture and then ask yourself if you really want to pursue this relationship if it means destroying this man's hopes for his son (of course the answer is yes, but respect the culture enough to think about it for a minute) After that your best bet is the sisters. Have a sit down with them and see what you all can come up with.

Answer 5

i don't sense that it is appropriate so which you may could desire to take a seat down there and hear his father placed you down in any variety.Do make it prevalent on your fiance that it bothers you. yet whilst your fiance hasn't reported something by making use of now. it is an illustration of destiny issues that he won't be protecting or conserving you. Now in case you verify to settle for that be arranged to get closer to God. with the aid of fact he often is the only one to maintain you from asserting extra desirable than words to candy previous fart face father in regulation.yet once you do not. relationship and getting to be attentive to yet somebody else isn't undemanding sufficient and to handle rude crab *** in-rules is calling completely too lots. So get out rapid. As on your prettiness. every physique has flaws in our visual allure we could care to alter. An eyebrow, length of regardless of. yet to declare you're actually not fantastically. merely stop it is merely hurtful to verify. every physique is attractive and fantastically in some variety. Their snigger, walk, the way they wash their hair or perhaps cook dinner. So locate what's fantastically or unique in you and that i assure you will not say those unloving words lower back. sturdy success and stay sturdy on your thoughts.

Answer 6

I don't think anything you do will change his mind. Even if his own son speaks to him about how he feels, I don't think it will affect anything. It would be hard. Maybe one day (hopefully before the wedding) he will see that nothing will come between you two and accept it? Have you and your fiance sat down together and told him exactly how you both feel? He sounds very stubborn. Someone just needs to drill the thought into his head that you and your fiance are not ever going to be apart.
Good luck!

Answer 7

His father only dislikes you now to attempt to stop you from marrying his son, but if you marry him he will have to realize that your part of the family despite what he wanted. And since the rest of the family likes you they will eventually persuade him to give up the grudge and he will like you in the end. So I would say marry him and it should all work out.

Answer 8

I think you and your man and his family should try to talk to him sit down and tell him how much you love his son...
well good look
bye

Answer 9

sounds like dad is jealouse,,,,, honey love you man , and dont let anything come between you and him, lie is tooooooo short to deal with , good luck

Answer 10

do not let him stop you. he will come around eventually (amazing what a grand baby will do)