i have really low self esteem?

Question

what can i do to build it up? any tips?

Answer 1

first of all if you believe in God, pray( it woks! ^^) seriously ask him to help you see your virtues and just help u feel good about yourelf. also, it doesnt matter how other ppl see you, but how you feel..when your happy everybody can see it..
ive felt like this before so i know what im telling you..also some time ago i read this passage in the bible that really helpped me and sheered me up, if you want email me and ill send you the verse (or just email it to you).

hoped i helpped!

Answer 2

There are many different techniques that can help you develop self-esteem. Although prayer CAN be extremely effective as far as I understand, I wouldn't count on prayer completely. And as far as the mechanical reassuring techniques like remember to tell yourself how great you are each day, well it can be hard to remember some of this stuff sometimes as busy as you may be...
However you DO need to think powerful positive thoughts about yourself on a daily basis. Dont LIE to yourself, start with reality and work your way up. Ackowledge the beauty about yourself, which we all have regardless of how we perceive ourselves. Be thankful that you havn't had your legs blown off during warfare, be thankful for your sharp five senses, be thankful for your long pretty hair if you have it.
Positive ackowledgement may help you to instill the regular flow of positive emotion throughout your mind and your body. This is a great thing. But we really develop self confidence when we see ourselves do something that we were uncertain of before. Starting exercising on a daily basis and once you become addicted to working out daily(which you will if you persist), continue to challenge yourself with different exercises and techniques in order to build self confidence.
You also have the opportunity, being an American and at the top of the food chain, to remove many obstacles from your life that you can do without. For example, if there are people at your job that make you feel uncomfortable and lame on a daily basis, find a different job. You have the freedom to so do it.
Break you insecurity down to its essense. Simplify it. Dont be afraid to face yourself and your true cause of insecurity. Once you pinpoint what is causing the majority of your insecurity, make the move in eliminating it from your life and this should give you working room to develop self-confidence.

Answer 3

The answer is within you. The way you preceive yourself is to tell yourself you are less worthy than the people around you. This isn't true. You have as much right to be here as anyone else. You have talents and abilities that you can use and nurture to make them even better. Use these talents to help other people. Be there for them so that they know that you are someone they can depend on, trust, and appreciate. As they love you for your selflessness and service, so you will come to learn to love yourself and this will give you real self respect and esteem. You will have earned it, and all will tell you so.
Don't focus upon the negative and make it about youself. You have the opportunity to use this not only to better yourself, but to be the instrument that will bring a little piece of heaven to Earth.

Answer 4

You can do what your parent's should have done.

It was up to your parents to build your self-esteem through self-confidence devices like learning to play piano, or dance lessons, or anything where you distinguished yourself through a pursuit of excellence.

Define who you are, who you want to be. Then apply yourself to a small goal that won't take much time to achieve.

Then take a little bigger step, but don't set yourself up for failure by setting grandiose goals at first.

Keep your goals at the same level as your confidence.

Every time you complete a goal your confidence will grow, and with it your self-esteem.

As your confidence in yourself grows, be sure your challenges grow also and you'll become a success in your own heart in time.

And that's all that really matters; that you know in yourself that you have chosen your own path, and arrived at the destination you intended.

Answer 5

This is a problem I share with you. Recently I saw a movie on DVD called "What the Bleep Do We Know" and it talks about psychology and the capacity we have to change. Since I saw the film I have been giving myself an affirmation at night before going to sleep: I have the power to change myself, therefore I have the power to change my life. At some point I will expand on that point (to myself) but it has made a great deal of improvement in my daily outlook.

I recommend the film to everyone. Hope that helps.

Answer 6

Do a lot of reading dude and everyday wake up to see in the mirror and praise yourself...
say that you are good
are beautiful
are confident to face the probs
are good at studies
make friendship
smile and cheer up others....
and also pray....
Good Luck
It's christmas time and have a party enjoy
life is not for worrying alone..
it's all depends on how you make it..... so start building

Answer 7

What make you have this thought of low self esteem? There must be someone or an incident that make you so discourage. Just overcome it and think positively in all kinds of matters, always bear in mind that "you can". I'll believe "you can" do it.

Answer 8

Practicing "Mindfulness Meditation" only 15 to 20 minutes a day will not only help you build up your self - esteem, it will improve your memory, your cognitive abilities, help you reduce stress, worry, anxiety, eleviate depression, deal effectively with ADHD and Bipolar; relaxes an individuals physically, emotionally and mentally, produces an atmosphere toward peaceful living, and most definately helps a person to see and understand life, just as it really is !!

Check out sites - do a search on your computer, on Mindfulness Meditation.

Also check out the many books Jon Kabat-Zinn has out on mindfulness meditation, He also has audio CD books to listen to. Books by him start as low as $3.70 on Amazon.com

But first check out sites, and read info. on Mindfulness Meditation.

Hope this helps you. It sure helped me alot.

Answer 9

If god "loves" you so much, why would he let you suffer with low self-esteem? Think about it. I suffer from that too but it's very occasional(hell, I'm going through it this very moment). My advice to you would be to just be confident in the things you do and take pride in them.

Answer 10

just tell yourself that you're a great person and focus on all the positive things about your self! that self esteem will be up in no time! good luck! =)