Well, then just HOW can you keep a man?
2006-11-12 13:42:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your question is over generalized. Not all men leave in either case. You've just picked the wrong guys for you. First, before you get serious tell him your limits. If you don't believe in sex before marriage or not until a certain number of months dating, or whatever, then let him know right at the beginning. That way your partner won't be frustrated, hurt, or angry. If he won't wait, he'll leave early before you get too serious.
2006-11-12 13:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chance20_m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dear,men leave you if they don't have sex,because it shows their intention in the first place. Men leave you after sex because 1. it was what he wanted in the first place 2. Men believe that sex will tell them all about a woman. It is the most intimate feeling you can experience with a person. If sex doesn't tell a man anything,then he doesn't bother to stay.
To keep a man,just be yourself,if he is truly good for you,he'd like you the way you were,and not for the sex.
p.s being mysterious means playing dumb.
2006-11-12 21:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they're going to leave because you don't have sex with them, then they don't love you, and would have left after you had sex with them, anyway. The ones who leave for not having sex are the same ones who leave after you have sex. See? It's not two different things. If you find someone who's willing to wait for you, then you're good. If you want to keep a man, stop worrying about how to keep a man. It makes you seem desperate. Start thinking about what they should be doing to keep YOU. Find someone who's company you enjoy. Only do what YOU are ready to do, when YOU want to do it. If they don't like it and leave, then they're not the one for you.
2006-11-12 21:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are the same so it's hard to answer this. First of all, any guy who pressures you is ridiculous. And any guy who uses and then leaves you is scum.
Second, is there any underlying cause besides sex. That's something to think about. Most guys who act like this have a fear of commitment. Not all guys, but a pretty good ratio. They think it's better to run and sleep around then settle into a decent relationship (and I'm not talking marriage). It seems easier and less scary to them.
Third, to keep a man, find a good guy. Start slow with conversation. Make sure you guys are somewhat compatible and have some mutual interests. Be honest with each other, and not just you being honest with him but him being honest in return. If he rushes then listen to the warning bells in your head.
2006-11-12 21:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Megan G 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The ones that leave if you don't are in it for the sex and the ones that leave if you do are just in it for the chase. There are girls that do the same thing.
Instead of trying to figure out how to keep a man, first find one that is worth keeping.
2006-11-12 21:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they want sex and only sex, if your not willing then they will find someone who is,
To keep a man you first have to find one who is real, not just some sex crazed idiot.
They are out there, maybe you are looking in the wrong places, I think if a guy truly liked you he would want to wait for a while, because he wouldn't want to screw it up. Get to know them first, really well, and trust them with all your heart before hand
2006-11-12 21:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets face it!!! We men are PIGS!! All we want is to have sex. If the guy is good for you, he will understand you and will not be bother if he does not get sex as long as you do show him you are interested. I mean that if you kiss, give him a kiss to come back. If you tell him straight up that you do want to but you want to make sure he is the real deal he should wait because he is wanting to settle down with that one person. YOU.
2006-11-12 21:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by thommie1992 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they leave because the only reason they are with you is for sex if they dont get it they will find it somewhere else and once they get it its old news and they want something new. try diffrent things in the bed it should never be the same thing.
2006-11-12 21:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by montana_infantry_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the love aint there Im thinkin any sex would leave. Im a chick and when Im with a dude Im not really into that much and we have sex or not Im not going to allow myself to get attached. So why stay with someone you really dont intend on getting attached to. Its a matter of finding someone who genuinely cares. And when they care they stick like crazy glue.
2006-11-12 21:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by b 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he's into you, he stays regardless of whether there is sex or not. You just haven't met the right one. Don't beat yourself up over it, go with what your gut tells you. Alot of times we get those signals telling us, we shouldn't have sex and we do, then we regret it. Just be who you are, he's out there.
2006-11-12 21:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋