I know it looks funny... but I'm having a real problem with this. My boyfriend has a brother and a sister. I have two sisters. Obviously they will both be in my wedding, as will his sister. I have two close/best friends as well. and that is the bare minimum!!! He thinks his brother, possibly his dad then, his step-dad, and he only has ONE close friend!!! How do I deal with this discrepancy???
Thanks for ANY advice. I can't possibly think of leaving anyone out (i've already cut it down considerably on my side...)
2006-11-12 13:40:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dont Worry over it!
Just do what ya gotta do :-)
In this day and age many traditions have gone the way side and guess what? Nobody died over it!
Include the people that you need to include. some may need to walk down the Aisle unescorted but think about it .. wasnt like they are dating their escorts
Congratulations!
2006-11-12 13:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by D B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO you do not have to have even numbers
it is your & fiance's day - do what you feel comfortable with
just keep in mind though that the more bridesmaids you have the harder it is to find outfits to suit them all
a suggestion for you to include those you want to - maybe have just the sisters as bridesmaids & your friends do readings during the ceremony & then maybe also give speeches at the reception
maybe one is a confident speaker & could be your MC - a VERY important role- or share that role
how old are the sisters? if they are not old enough to sign the certificates - then you could ask one of your friends to come forward at that point & do so for you- they dont need to be in the bridal party to still do this.When my daughter got married she had her sister as bridesmaid but had her grandmother sign the marriage certificate
bridal party could be sisters on your side - brother & mate on his side - or your sisters for you & his brother & sister for him
I have heard of a number of people doing that type of thing-
keep the bridal party to just the family
there are many different options to include those important to you without necessarily having them in the bridal party
THINK outside the square & decide what is going to work for you
to make the day uniquely yours
EDIT*** just read a couple more answers that were posted while I was typing this - it is not just your day alone- but also that of your groom- if he wasn't there you would not be having the wedding - so do take into account his wishes as well- great place for you both to learn to start comprising
2006-11-12 14:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does look funny but it is YOUR wedding and one off is not a big deal. Here is a suggestion for you. After picking out the girls who are to be bridesmaids how about the others as female ushers. They can stand at the back of the church and seat people. They could wear a variation of the bridesmaid dresses. It's not tradition but people will certainly notice them.
2006-11-12 14:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do NOT have to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. You can have whatever you want. You can have groomswomen and bridesmen if you want.
If you are worried about a "lop-sided" wedding, then have some people do special things, like maybe someone can read a poem, sing a song, etc.
2006-11-14 15:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely do not have to have the same number of attendants on both sides...I have done weddings where the bride and groom have a best friend of the opposite sex. They decided that it would only be best if the bride's best friend stood on her side and the groom's best friend stood on his side.
It was absolutely stunning because the bride's male friend wore a vest and tie to match the color of the bridesmaids' dresses....likewise, the groom's female friend wore a black dress which matched the style of the bridesmaids, but had a sash that was the same color as the groomsmens' vests and ties.
Be creative with things because it is your day...do what you want!
2006-11-13 06:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of weddings have uneven sides. Perhaps your last bridesmaid can walk back down the aisle with a man on each arm (lucky her!). And as for seating at the head table, alternate male female, beginning with a bridesmaid at the end, you two in the middle, and then ending the table with a bridesmaid. i.e.
Bridesmaid
Usher
Bridesmaid
Usher
Bride
Groom
Maid of Honour
Best Man
Bridesmaid
Usher
Bridesmaid
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-12 13:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can do it. The photographer will know how to group the pics of the party so it looks good.
At my wedding, I had a MOH & 2 brides-maids. My husband had a best man. The wedding rehersal will be a good time to work out the kinks of how to walk the girls/guys.
Walking down the aisle after we were married was fine-my MOH walked with the best-man. The other girls walked down the aisle alone.
When it came to the dance we had my MOH w/ the best man & the other 2 brides-maids danced with the dates they came with.
Its YOUR day & you do what you want! Anything can be worked around...unless you are a diva!
2006-11-12 14:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, it's YOUR wedding. You can do whatever you want, and no, it will not look funny. Just have the wedding party all walk up by themselves, not with the groomsman, etc. Good luck, and don't stress about it. It may seem like a big deal now, but 1 year from now, you will wondering what the big deal was.
2006-11-12 13:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem in my wedding, the thing is we started in pairs then the time for the wedding the car that was carrying the groomsmen got hooked up in traffic because of some roadworks and could'nt make it on time so i improvised i let all the girls just walk in one lineand they had fun because everyone was watching them in their clothes and it looked as if they were kinda modeling,the fact is have fun this is your big day, what u could do is let them pair of and who ever remain unpaired let them walk in a straight line, u dont have to go by any rule this is your day and whatever u say goes so be creative
2006-11-12 14:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding you can do whatever you want. And no you do not have to have an equal bridal party. I have one more groomsmen than bridesmaids in mine. We are just having the best man walk in with my fiance and then having my maid of honor escort in 2 guys at the reception. Do whatever makes the day wonderful for you.
2006-11-12 14:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by happygirlkriss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋