My boyfriend and I split, he says that he still loves me but is confused about us being together?

Question

We were having problems about his brother harassing me an I got my parents involved since he could not fix the situation, my parents talked to his parents and now were split. Its been a week we talk an see each other outside of our houses since I cant go to his, he can come to mine but wont b/c he thinks my mom does not like him. All she as is for him is to bring me home at an appropraite time, dont come over when she's not there an stay off her computer, an stop asking her so many questions. The way he acts towards me is likt he still wants me, but yet he's saying we have to be friends, he says that his heart says stay with me but his mind says no an his parents use scipture from the BIBLE to talk bad about me. I get angry quick but his brother has harassed me for over 11 months, there was no stoping him I told my bf I love him and I do, an I want to be with him, we idnt even get to celbrate our1yr anniversary. Why is he acting like thist he wants to hug an kiss me etc.whats up w/that

Answer 1

Stay friends with him until you both finish school. Then go to the same college and start dating again.

You both sound young, so your parents will be trying to influence who you date. Your mother sounds ok with him, but if his parents are going to quote the bible to slag you off, then you will never win favour with them.

Unless you know the bible better than they do and can find contradictions in what they say and show them up for being hypocrits. Depends if you want to go to that much effort for this boy.

His parents will only approve of a virginal pristine bible worshipping girl for their son. You will never be good enough for them. But he has to decide who he wants to be with as its his life. So he might not be in that position until he is independant from his parents, which might not be for a few years.

Answer 2

He's torn between the wishes of his parents and his feelings for you. If he's at all religious and he's in a home where his family is close and have tight structure, of course he's going to be acting this way. You can't expect him to choose you over his family right now. He's still dependant on his parents until he's old enough to be on his own. Unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. Perhaps you may have to take a step back and just accept what he is willing have with you right now.

Answer 3

Stay apart-you are too young to have to deal with this drama. His parent should have his bro on a leash but b/c they don't like you they are fine with it. Quoting scripture is horrible because it was intended to teach not harass or offend. Why would you want to be a part of this mess any longer?

Move on and be happy-you deserve it!

Answer 4

i believe he torn between you and his parents and he needs to make a decision on what he wants in his life. the parents need to let him make decisions on his own and not use the bible to feel that they can gossip. it sounds like they control their son alot. he will have alot of problems in the future. the brother harrasses you because of the parents evidently.have a heart to heart talk with him and see where he stands with you, and if he is really committed.

Answer 5

forget the family and all, you sound young so go on and meet new people and forget the overly dramatic household, why should you have to put up with being insulted by a bible scrpture, that's not what they are for

Answer 6

if you get your parents involve than you should stay away from
him if you get back with him that will be an insult to your parents

Answer 7

I think its for the better that yall did split up before it got worse and guys come and go!!!!!

Answer 8

Tell him that you can clear up his confusion. Then start dating his best friend.