My sister and her best friend are not virgins. They have boyfriends and they have sex. They have more fun. They have more to talk about. I sometimes feel isolated from them. Alot of boys want to have sex with me, but i tell them no. I dont know what to do, i want to fit in with them but i dont want to regret losing my virginity. I almost lost it to my ex, but i didn't He say im too scary. I dont know what to do. some boys look at my chest and body and want to do it. I really want a relationship/ Last night me, my sister, and her best friend, and their boyfriends all went to the movies, i felt so lonely. I want a relationship where i can just cuddle up with, and laugh with. I didn't have nobody to sit with so between half the movie i left and went to go sit in the car. Why can't a boy like me for me. I feel so lonely now that i isolate myself from them. They tell me that i should stay a virgin,I have no boyfriend, when they talk i can't join in. Please tell me what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-12 12:59:17 · 24 answers · asked by Fallin out of Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You keep doing exactly what you are doing now. The right guy will come eventually and will wait on you. It may be a little while, but you are 15, you don't need a serious relationship right now in your life. Just date, look around and have fun! There is no need for you to be in a commitment or tied down. The right guy will come. Good luck and God bless you for standing your ground and keeping your morals!
2006-11-12 13:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by daweeney 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are feeling a lot of pressure to have sex with a boy, just so you & your sister will have something in common to talk about?
There are lot's of guys out there who would give anything to be the guy you want to cuddle up with.
Trust me, you won't have more fun or fit in somewhere just because you let boys have sex with you.
Of course you felt lonely at the movies last night because you were what is called "The fifth Wheel" Everybody gets lonely in that situation, no matter what.
Going out & losing your virginity, just to be popular or to fit in would be a tragic mistake.
Slow down, take your time, date, have fun, & don't feel you need to latch on to a boyfriend just because every other girl has one.
You'll know when the time is right to start having sex, as long as you decide for yourself, & not because you felt you had too.
2006-11-12 13:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm so proud of you for being yourself and NOT doing it just to fit in! You WILL know when it's time for you to take that step. DO NOT be influenced or forced into anything you don't feel ready for.
You won't have to ask or wonder, you'll just know!
Wait and do it with someone who loves you, not who just wants to f*** you - animals do that, not decent humans! Nowadays, anyway, it's cooler to be a virgin! You'll get much more of the "right" kind of attention!
By the way, get some new boys to hang around with. They wouldn't ask you to have sex if they didn't think they could. In other words, keep your self-respect - those boys obviously aren't respecting you.
Find something better to do - why do you need to be like your sister anyway? You sound a lot smarter and cooler than her anyhoo!
They are NOT more fun or more interesting just because they talk about sex. Ick! How dumb is that? Don't they know anything else to talk about?- how dumb are they?
There are lots of other things to talk about - go to http://www.ibsclark.bravehost.com/
2006-11-12 13:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, when they start talking about missing their periods or tiny sores popping up down there then you can thank your lucky stars that you didn't give it up just to fit in. You should not give your virginity to just anyone. Wait until you are in love. It will mean so much more. Do you want to look back on that day and regret it for the rest of your life. I am not with the person I gave mine to anymore but I do not regret it for a minute. I loved him very much. I met him when I was 14. We had an off and on relationship for 10 years. We waited two years to give our virginity to one another. We had two children together and we married one another. It didn't work out but it was an experience I would not change. I will always love him because he was my first love. Don't you want to feel this way too?
2006-11-12 13:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't feel bad, your virginity is something special that you can never get back. You are still very young.
You will know when the time & person is right for you, don't let anyone make you think that you are different or don't fit in becasue you are a virgin.
When they are talking try to just listen & maybe you can learn some things before you give it up.
2006-11-12 13:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by KRISTIN C 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its hard when you feel you don't fit in but this is only a glimpse of your life. Take me for example IM a 20 yo male who wishes I would have waited I lost it at 12 and later when 20 hit me I knew i would have been better off
and boy do like you for your whatnots trust me
i was like that and so were my friends careful or your gonna end up on some guys belt noch and you have every right to wanna be liked
for who you are and as for those pesky hormones you r own self is the best satisfing
safest thing and is still lots of fun so be careful and watchful
2006-11-12 13:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by daview1234 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's great that your not letting your self be pressured into having sex. That's not a solution for not being lonely. Find some other friends to hang out with that you have more in common with. I know it's not easy making friends, but give it a try.
2006-11-12 13:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by kayjay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what you wrote.... You sound like a very smart young lady. If you do not feel comfortable with having sex just yet..... (which is a very wise decision for your age), don't do it. Who cares if your sister and her friend are not virgins anymore..... don't give in until you're absolutely sure.... And when you are... make sure that your partner is THE ONE. Also, make sure that he has strong feelings for you too. You don't want to make the mistake of falling for some-one who just wants one thing from you. You know what?........ There are alot of guys out there who want exactly what you want right now too!!.... Just to cuddle and hang-out.
I hope this helps you out abit.
2006-11-12 13:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by surfrat 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not trying to be rude to any guys here, but the main reason yo can't have a guy like you for you is the fact that at this age all they think about is sex. (one again not trying to be rude). Not all guys are like this though so you'll just have to waite for the right guy to come along. And about you friends, it doesn't matter whether or not you can talk with them when that subject comes up it matters that you can respect yourself afterwards and your happy with yourself. Whether or not you've had sex. Waite until you think your ready, not when everyone else thinks so.
2006-11-12 13:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by hippie_at_heart 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you are doing the right thing your virginity is something you can only give once you will only have a good relationship when you are with someone who will honor and respect your values. Most of those guys are just interested in sex you want someone who is really into you. you are awesome :)
2006-11-12 13:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa S 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋