We are adopting a 15 year old boy tommorow. I haven't met him yet but my parents have. He is from an abusive household, which I believe is his own. I really want this to work out because I'd love to have a brother to talk to (my sister and other brothers can be annoying.)
Can anyone help calm me down?
2006-11-12 12:15:37 · 8 answers · asked by I think... 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should expect your inner strength to kick in right about now as you read this. Of course you are apprehensive a bit, but don't allow yourself to experience nervousness. Your family is doing a wonderful thing, and good things bring strength and peace. Remember (I'm sure you do) that the 15-year old is going to be a little uncomfortable making a transition, so it would be a good idea to let everyone in the family know (in a gentle way) that everyone needs a little quiet time (alone time) to recharge and reflect. So for now, just think about how your family will show him love so that he will feel like he really belongs somewhere that is great, and he will be able to forget his abusive past, and put it behind him forever.
2006-11-12 12:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax yourself and welcome him with open arms. He needs to feel loved and accepted right now seeing that he's been through so much. Just be there for him the best way you can and don't worry yourself. Your going to be nervous because it's someone new entering the household, but it will pass I assure you of that. Everything is going to be fine. Look foward to being a postive sister in his life. He's going to need you and everyone else there.
2006-11-12 21:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be nervous too! Be sure your parents know you are nervous. Use this feeling to keep a defensive barrier in place, just in the phase of getting to know him. He might lash out a lot at first, for many reasons. Let him know you are open to getting to know him, try to involve him in things going on in family at times, and give him plenty of space and time. Don't let any intial bad moments affect you, there probably will be some, just try to forgive and look forward to having another family member to love.
2006-11-12 20:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly normal for you to be nervous. But remember - he's bound to be annoying, too. That's the way siblings are. My brother is 46, my sister is 52 and they are *still* annoying! LOL Good luck and congrats on the new brother!
2006-11-12 20:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a big event. i am not about to tell you everything is going to perfect right away or ever. i am going to tell you that it will be OK. take a deep breath everything will be fine. and remember to keep the lines of communication open with your parents let them know how you are feeling.
2006-11-12 20:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself and i'm sure it will all work out. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-11-12 20:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by mamabag06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel nervous. You should feel good that you helped somebody, perhaps even saved their life.
2006-11-12 20:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by ATLien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be friends. listen when he has something to say, but most importantly make sure he knows he is safe and loved
2006-11-12 20:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by dawn_horger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋