I cut because I feel like I can.?

Question

I cut. There it's out there. Is there anyone out there who can make me feel better without telling me to get help. I hate my life and everyone involved in my life except my two best friends. I'm not going to sugarcoat it and say, " Im a sad depressed little girl boo-hoo." All I'm going to say is that my life is **** and I want to die alot. All of you out there are going, " Oh no! she's suicidal then you start typing 'go get help'
Please don't do this. I have gotten "help". And frankly it didnt "help". My shrink said i was unstable and prescribed me some drugs and thats it. He never once sat there and actually listened to me. All he heard were the words cut, death, and solution. Thats why I am here. To see if there are any people with heads on their shoulders who can tell me how to fix this problem without being a concerned citizen. Be blunt please. Tell it like it is.

Answer 1

boo ******* hoo. i've been a cutter for over 8 years. there's some people you hear talk about it and you sympothise with, and there's some you just want to punch. honestly? i want to punch you. stop crying and stop cutting. life is out there. most real cutters have some deep routed problem, usually chemically. like me. but those people out there who dont have a REAL disorder, a real physiological disorder, are usually, and mostly, doing it for attention. to me, that seems to be the case here. it's not always bad, so dont necissarily take it as an insult. i mean, if noone cares about u, u'r gonna wht u can to get them to care. so of course meds arent gonna work on you. you dont have a physiological problem, you have an emotional problem. the only way to get that is to change your atmosphere or to change your perception of said atmosphere. you arent gonna do it by gettin on yahoo! and sayin "help me. though i cant be helped." to me, it seems like you dont REALLY want to be helped, you just want to see your options.

so basically, my best advice is get off ur ***, stop crying, and start fixing your problems. all it takes is a little motivation.

Answer 2

Nice. I like you're style - ok - here it is blunt and no PC crap.
Cutting is a release - just like crying, laughing, sex, and many other things - most offer relief - some pleasure, some pain - some both. Cutting is usually a release of pain and a numbing feeling - initially a rush (not for everyone) and then an absence of pain. People who cut are hurting - and they hurt themselves to gain a sense of control. I'm not going to play "good citizen" or yell at you. You don't necesarily need meds - you need someone who gives a **** and will listen and help you sort out all this **** you're feeling. You don't want to die - you want the pain to go away. How deep are you cutting? Where are you cutting on your body? Do you want people to notice it, or are you hiding it? If we're talking light scratches that go away after a few days, you're bullshit. If you're hoping people will notice - that's a lame cry for help. If you're serious - and it sounds like you are - you should know that cutting is addictive. I don't preach at people who smoke or drink or a number of other things, so I won't preach at you. I won't tell you to seek professional help - instead I'll tell you to find a friend, a family member, or anyone else that cares about you and talk it out - you're keeping secrets and holding on to pain that is toxic. Counselors like me really do listen and really do care - unfortunately there are a lot of quacks out there. My advice - move away from being your own worst enemy and move toward being your own best friend.

Answer 3

I am not sure how old you are but it sounds like you need to start living your life for you. When you live life hoping that others will "do" you have nothing but dissapointment.Sit down and write out what would make you happy that is attainable w/out anyone elses approval or energy. If you are young and hate your life then set mini goals of what you will do when you turn 18 and are able to leave and start a new life. There are loans and grants just waiting for you. If you do not want to go to college then get your massage therapy license or become an esthetician. You have the power to make your life great. Be smart about it and make sound decisions. If you have any other questions you can reach me at sheabutterbeauty@yahoo. Good Luck and God Bless!!!!!!

Answer 4

I cut too, I started when I was 13 and now I'm 24. When I first started people found out and didn't do anything about it, people told me I was doing it for attention so I've learned to it hide pretty well over the last 11 years. I don't know how to stop so I really can't offer you any ways for you to stop. But if your young I suggest trying a different doctor or something because the older you get the harder it is to ask for help. I wish we could talk face to face. Good luck and know your not alone in this battle.

Answer 5

You aren't the only one who has wanted to die. A lot of people go through hating themselves and hating everyone around them. The fact that you're cutting yourself says that you hate you more than you hate everything else. You don't like how things are in your life, guess what, you're the only one with the power to change it. I'm going to tell you talk to your friends at the very least they may be able to help you sort out your emotions as to why you hate everything. Other than that it's going to take you being honest with yourself about absolutely everything. Start making the changes you feel you need to. You're in charge of your health and your mental well being. It's a hard journey but your life and your well being are at stake. Life may not be everything you want but it isn't worth giving up. It can be worth fighting for but the choice is yours.

Good luck and remember you are never alone!!

Answer 6

I'll be blunt. If you're like anyone else I've known that cuts, you do it because it's the only thing in your life you can control. You said you are depressed and I believe you. You're probably in your teens. I didn't cut, but I felt the same way from about age 12 to 20. I took medication, I saw therapists, nothing helped.

Nothing helped until I started going to college. While I was in school I had an almost full time job, and mostly supported myself. I had to pay for my apartment, food, gas, car, all that stuff. I didn't find god or anything like that. I just slowly started feeling better. I think it's because when I was younger I couldn't control anything in my life. My parents were responsible for me and I didn't have any say about where I lived, how late I stayed out, what I bought, what I ate, pretty much everything. When we're that age, we're basically mentally adults, but we're still treated like children. It's like sending a grown man to jail.

I took Paxil and Celexa, and I don't think they did anything. The only time I felt good was when I was doing things that I had responsibility for.

How are you going to stop cutting? Realistically, you probably won't stop cutting until you feel better in general. And I don't think that thinking about the pain makes it better. Feeling better is all about what you do. I spent too much time thinking about things and not doing them. I can't tell you what to do. But do things, and think about doing them, not what you're feeling about other sh*t.

Answer 7

For the last 6 years I was a cutter. I relapsed big time two months ago and seriously injured myself. Things that I've done to get my mind off of cutting is having a hair tie around my arm and snapping it whenever I wanted to. Do you cut multiple times during the day? I did for awhile, it's like trying to quit smoking. You have to ween yourself off of it you know? But, I know you don't want help. Maybe you need different meds? I know that once I started on Wellbutrin I felt so much better. I also admitted myself into a partial program. I saw people that had a lot more problems then me and learned a lot from them. There is also a site called psyke.org . They have a forum and such to talk to people that have the same issues. Don't feel alone. I never wanted help either....

Answer 8

you're not going to like this but you need help but not necisarly from a "shrink" if you do continue threapy you should go to a psychologist NOT a psychiatrist psychiatrists use drugs and can prescribe then a psychologist has to call a medical doctor and ask them to prescribe a medication so they have to actually talk to you about the situation. I've had bouts of depression all my life (I was suicidal from about age 7 or 8 until 16 then it got better for awhile then it came back with a vengence the only thing that stopped me from doing anything was the very few friends and my deranged family knowing that they would be hurt deeply by my selfish act. I started writing poetry (no they don't have to rhyme nor do they have to really make sense to anyone but you) to let out my frustrations people that read them think i'm a really disturbed individual. i also have violent tendencies (i used to beat up my best friend on a pretty regular basis until i realized that it was pent up aggression from my elder brother beating me when I was little (i blocked it all out except for remembering the bruises and wondering where the hell they came from, only reason I know what happened is because my family told me so, and my dad sitting my brother and i down and telling him never to touch me again, now he just verbally abuses me, thank god i don't live near him anymore, haven't spoken to him in years.) You need to find some outlet for your frustrations from the sounds of it you're probably under 18 and can't really get away from family crap and all that b.s. just remember you'll be 18 and be able to get out of the house before you know it and not have to deal with all that idiotic drama that families cause, i actually don't live anywhere near my family i live in arizona and everyone in my family hates it here so I don't have to see them unless i want to go where they are, it's great :-D just remember the majority of the population is full of crap so theres no point in stressing over the things they do and just live your life how you want to live it and call it good don't let the little things get to you they don't really matter. my advice is to find an outlet for anger other than hurting yourself i know all about...physical pain hurts less than emotional pain...cutting makes you feel that you have control over something in your life and so on...but there has to be something that you enjoy doing that makes you feel better you just have to figure out what that something is. seek help...may it be professional or through your own means :-D

Answer 9

Well, you cut yourself because you can. That doesn't sound like a good reason to me. What is so terrible in your life that you think cutting yourself is the solution?
Just because you've gotten "help" at one time or so and the "shrink" didn't help you doesn't mean that there are not better ones out there.
Isn't there anything you can do to stop hating your life? Anything you can change for the good?
You wanted bluntness and I think I've given you that.

Answer 10

wow... i know what hell on earth is like, cuz i've been there. You're asking someone to beblunt and tell it like it is, but you know the answer you're looking for. You know what the voice in your head says. Only you can tell yourself like it is. I don't know you... none of us do. I could say "oh you poor thing!" or "you need help" or "suck it up you piss poor little ham!" but I don't know what your problems are. if you really think you need to die, then do what you need to do. I'm a believer that life can get so bad that sometimes ending it makes sense. But you're still here, so there's some hope left in you somewhere. you need to list out your problems... make that laundry list of things that make your life suck. And look at it and figure out what you need to do. If you're trapped in an abusive family with no job and nothing to lose, then bail out and travel the country. I'd rather be some hitchhiking bum who travels the country than be stuck in some closet somewhere surrounded by people I hate.

And if it's not that bad, then focus on what you've got. Focus on your friends and work on getting away from whatever it is that makes you miserable. And don't turn to sex and drugs and booze other forms of stupidity to run for your problems, becuase then you might be locked into this feeling for good. Just trust me on this one.

You need creative outlets. Art, music, writing, whatever it is that you're drawn to. Shut the outside world out if you have to and do what you need to do to distance yourself from the negatives. Focus on your friends. And ask yourself what you think life SHOULD be. What's the difference between what your life should be and what it is. Is your "ideal" even realistic? Are you mad because life isn't perfect? It's not supposed to be. Life is supposed to be sloppy and messed up, and we're meant to fall short of perfection... sometimes VERY short.

Just know this... there is a place in the world for you. There's a place where you can be surrounded by people who accept you and understand you. And you can get there. You just need to figure out who you are or who you want to be, and you need to be the friend that you want others to be to you... maybe it's just moving out and getting a place with your current friends and just meeting new people with them and creating your own world. Anything's possible. You just need to clear your head, take a deep breath, and start down the road of makin it happen.

So long as you're still alive, happiness is always within reach if you truly want it.