There's a guy I like who seems like a loner. He always would look at me and make eye contact and so i started to say hi or smile as i'd walk by his counter when he works in the library. He always just had this blank stare but would always watch me. One day I went up to talk to him and he seemed surprised and a bit uncomfortable. So then i just would smile and start to walk out and he'd get my attention to call me over to small talk. Or I guess when he sees me pass in the hall he calls out "hows it going" to get my attention and then we make more small talk. He even comes up to me in the library sometimes and makes more small talk. My question is, I can't read this guy. He seems sarcastic and jokes around a little but he doesnt use my name when he says hi like I do and he doesnt ask me any questions about myself. Whats the deal? If he wasnt interested then why would he call out to get my attention? Is he arrogant or something? I'm pretty sure he has the clue that I like him.
2006-11-12 11:58:57 · 3 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are either one of a couple of things. First off, he may just be a very lonely person who lacks friends and social skills. So, he does small talk so that he builds these skills up and thus doesn't know that he can use your first name. Second, he could like you and just doesn't know how to show it. I know plent of guys in their mid twenties who have never had a girlfriend before and get really uncomfortable around them and don't know what to say. So, invite him out somewhere and see what he says. Maybe be a little more forthcoming with him and he might open up to you. Best of luck.
2006-11-12 12:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by John Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. He's just not as good at social things as you are.
He may not know your name. (Really. Stress can make it vanish. This happens to guys a lot.) If you are *sure* that he knows your name, he may not realize that using it is a good idea, socially. The no-questions thing is another example: I know you must be young, since if you were experienced you'd know that men never ask you questions about yourself ;) It doesn't mean he's uninterested. It means that guys go about this differently. He may also be worse than most--many people in libraries are shyer than normal (hate to perpetuate a stereotype, but I've worked in libraries for more than a decade and it's true).
Take it to the next level. Think out some questions for him or something you'd like to talk to him about. The next time you have one of your jokey conversations, ask him out for coffee. Once you're there, ask him what you planned (this is to make sure that things will go well if he freezes up out of embarrassment, which he might). See what happens. You might make a new friend. Or you might realize this is not meant to be. Either way, you'll have solved your problem.
More importantly, you'll have started to learn a very valuable skill...the ability to date someone casually and figure out whether it might go further without much emotional commitment. I can't tell you how many of my female friends don't know this, and how badly it's hurt them as they get older. Don't wait around: if you like him, go for it.
2006-11-12 20:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by vanveen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be looking for a friend. It depends on if he touched his hair a lot while hes talking to you, and if he touches you when you're talking to him, he definitely likes you more than a friend. If he just talks, then he wants a friend and only a friend. Sorry..
2006-11-12 20:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋