okay me and my bf have been dateing 8months i love him soo much and im scared i'm going to lose him. bc we fight alot and i really dont want to lose him he is the love of my life and i would die without him! pls tell me something we can do to stop all our fights!
2006-11-12 11:53:03 · 14 answers · asked by tyler's baby girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This was happening to me in the last relationship I was in. And...we ended up breaking up. If you always fight, maybe it's...better if you guys are just friends. But if you really love each other you'll stay 2gether no matter what. I thought a lot after we broke up about what I could have done to stop the fighting. I figured out that if I stopped getting mad @ him 4 every little thing and if I stopped causing all the drama it wouldve worked. Watch what you do and say. Just keep smilin!
2006-11-12 11:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a loaded question. what are you fighting about? money, jealousy, insecurities are the main cause of fighting, and can be overcome. who starts the arguments? if either of you are insecure in your relationship, even the way you say hello can start a fight. you have only been together for 8 months, you both are still learning about each other, so time will only tell. if the fights are taking on a pattern, such as if you dont agree with ALL his opinions, please beware, you may be entering into an abusive relationship, if the fights are centered around belittling either partner this is NOT a healthy relationship, and you should end it now to save years of heartache, however if the fights are over silly little things, you both need to grow up and the best advice i can give you is CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES! in the greater scheme of life does it matter who takes the garbage out, if the toilet seat is up or down, is the cap on the toothpaste, these are insignificant problems, and remember it takes two to argue, dont rise to the bait or dont start the argument. life is to short to waist time on little problems, if you cant stop arguing over the little things when you are hit with a major disagreement, your relationship will never survive. learn to laugh about the little things
2006-11-12 12:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by popant42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you fight about? If you fight so much until you think it might break you up then, you need to reconsider having a relationship with this guy. In a relationship you should be able to get along and talk things out without arguing all the time. So instead of arguing try talking.
2006-11-12 14:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a tough one. I thought the same once in my life. I really though that I found the right person....but we did fight often. I thought one way and she another. I did try to calm myself when I felt a fight coming on. I did try to keep more of an open mind.....but ultimately, we had to seperate. We did go out again, tried again, but it did not work. I was down for while and wondered if I could ever meet somebody as great even though we fought. Then, one day, I met somebody who was even better and really understood me and took the time to understand me. I will ask her to marry me very soon! I made the right move. Good luck. It may hurt to seperate, but I am sure you have great friends to help you through. Good luck.
2006-11-12 12:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by CK1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this instead of fighting try to communicate better. It is normal to fight but when it becomes an all the time thing the you both need to try to find out what is wrong with the relationship. Try when you fight to walk away from each other then try coming back and talking to each other.
2006-11-12 11:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by EMTGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard i go through that too with my bf but we have been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and we fight at least 3 times a week. and i know how you feel i would die if i lost mine bf. try and not do things that bug eachother that helps sometimes. and also think before you speak i struggle with that alot sometimes i will say something with out thinking about how it is gonna sound to him and get in a big fight. i hope i helped! good luck!
2006-11-12 11:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you are young, then it is a hard question to answer.....when you are dating at a young age, you think you are in love, and this is the one for you. It is amazing how that all changes in just a few short years. I know what I am talking about. I am 32 years old, happily married (finally) and to a guy that I would not have looked at twice when I was younger. You got a whole life ahead of you, look forward to it!!! Good luck, and remember that old saying that our grandparents say......There are plenty more fish in the sea!!!!
2006-11-12 11:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo Answerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not die without him! You have only been with him for 8 months! If you guys fight all the time, maybe the best thing to do is end it.
2006-11-12 11:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you just need to talk to him say everything that you said on here and tell that to him. Think about the things that you guys fight about somethings really can be left in the bedroom if it's not a big deal
2006-11-12 11:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by joestar909 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know whats going on with you two it happens in every realitonship me and my girl do it often its just apart of a relationship the best part is making up and no not sexualy either but when you make up it will bring you two closer than you wher you will learn through out your relaitionship about that person and your love will grow stronger there will be time you think it will be over but if they really love you every thing will fall in place!
2006-11-12 12:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by andrew_mershon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋