I thought i had a really sweet guy, then he started taking off on the weekends and only coming home at night, "like he was trying to avoid me!" He always stays friends with females he once dated! He started hanging out with one of his ex's and boom he was gone!
I always treated him with lots of love and attention! Sex was always on point! SO WHERE DID i GO WRONG? I didn't wanna act insecure and jealious about his ex's because he'ld cop an attitude when I happened to go there once!
He said they all had boyfriends and I had nothing to worry about, so I tried not too and never bothered him about things again!
I put so much trust in him,and he knew I had prior issues with trust from my ex!
I never thought he would go there on me!
2006-11-12 11:31:28 · 14 answers · asked by lilsiciliangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like this guy was anything but a "really sweet guy". From the sound of it, he was an insensitive jerk the whole time, and you, unfortunately, just happened to find out about it too late.
You let him walk all over you, and from the sound of it, he knew that he could do it and get away with it. That's where you went wrong. It had nothing to do with sex or affection or love from you. That only kept him coming back for a short time.
Relationships are about compromise, not letting your partner walk all over you. If are uncomfortable about your partner's actions, tell them. If they refuse to change, move on. If they don't have enough respect for you, then they don't love you.
2006-11-12 11:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alrighty, you know your exclamation key works...
maybe if you had trust issues with the last guy you picked this guy to finish working on those issues. Get the book "How To Be An Adult In Relationships" by David Richio. You can order it online at amazon.com
It's a good book, it points out patterns and why you might have them and how to deal with them. It gives you some healthy sign-posts to look for when choosing a mate so you don't keep making the same mistakes.
2006-11-12 11:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady that was you mistake, you never go into a relationship giving your all. You start out letting the man know what you do not expect. Never allow him to hang out with females without you being present. Women will take advantage of your kindness. And so will a man so go find a MAN.
2006-11-12 12:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't be too good to them - they take it for granted and then take advantage of it - you're better off keeping them guessing (just like he did to you) - think about it: when you were guessing about where he was and what he was doing, didn't it seem to make you more interested? Works both ways (and if it doesn't, he's not worth keeping around anyway)
2006-11-12 11:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by cat lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, let me tell you, once you have the suspicion, it's probably true. Yes you do have something to worry about. Find your self-esteem and self-respect and get the he!! out of a bad situation.
2006-11-12 11:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long did u know him b4 u shacked up with him??try waiting longer b4 getting serious next time,,remember trust is earnd,,not just givin,,and u dont have to take crap from no one no more,,date for a very long time b4 u give ur heart and trust again,,that means dont sleep with them
2006-11-12 11:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust 100%. When you care too much it chases them away.
2006-11-12 11:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by bellydancer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do not command respect. Be yourself and tell him what you want. If he cant give that then move on. Good luck.
2006-11-12 11:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because guys r @$$ holes! so just start treating him like crap and then he will fall in love with u all over again!
2006-11-12 11:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by tyler's baby girl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you feel that way because you havent had a man like me i have yet to chaet on any of the girls ive dated
2006-11-12 11:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by el nene del amor 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋